I have a friend like this who given the opportunity would go out to happy hour every night and go home with a different man every night to escape the control she felt her husband and others in her life put on her. I tried really hard to give her a safe place to talk so if she did have too much to drink, I wasn’t going to try to get in her pants. Eventually, most of her past experiences came out, things she hadn’t shared with anyone (which explained a lot). We slowly worked to help get her to a better place in life and the ability to make better decisions for herself. On the surface, her husband looks controlling, but in reality he is serving as an anchor to keep her from doing the things that she really wants to do that would be completely destructive