Submitted by Accomplished_Low_265 t3_z4tbhq in LifeProTips

For starters, my English isn't great. I'm learning English. So if there are some mistakes, pelase being understand.

My daughter was invited to sleepover. I'm thinking of letting her go there. I've not had experience like that. So I don't know much about sleepover. I don't want to be rude. Is there any etiquette that I should have? I won't go there, just my daughter is going.

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keepthetips t1_ixsmjyo wrote

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noobletsquid t1_ixsn8u8 wrote

yup they r rally fun let her go!! no need bring anything her friend should have blanket and pillow. just pick her up maybe before noon next morning šŸ˜

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majwilsonlion t1_ixsng3a wrote

It is okay to talk directly to the parent of the house your daughter will stay at. Ask the parent who will be there? Will an adult be home all the time during the sleep over? How many girls will be there (safety in numbers). Will there be boys (invited, or brothers in the house)? Will the girls go somewhere together (the mall, food court, etc)?

But also ask, How can I help? Can I bring any snacks? May I help order pizzas? Etc.

What time should I pick my daughter up?

If your daughter is making all the plans and not letting you be involved, that sounds bad (depending on the age of the daughter, perhaps).

imho

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lost-a-bet1881 t1_ixsp9hk wrote

From the father of 3 Daughtersā€¦ it's an excellent opportunity to get to know Her friend's parents. Take the time to have the conversation with them about any concerns you might have and ask them if they would need any help(it is rare, but appreciated)

On the bonus side, it gives you another contact into your daughter's circle of friends. When/If she hits a rebellious stage, having those contacts can be crucial sometimes.

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majwilsonlion t1_ixt2gup wrote

No, it is an acceptable question. Just ask politely, like you are curious and loving parent.

You know the situation better then I can possibly know. If you trust the family, good. But if you do not know anything about the family, it is your right to ask questions.

Your daughter will likely have fun. This is a common activity for American children.

Edit: by offering to provide food or help out, you are making it seem less rude when you ask the questions. šŸ˜‰

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AlternateDiver666 t1_ixv5mkl wrote

You should not be concerned about seeming rude. You should be concerned with your daughter's safety.

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Historical-Remove401 t1_ixx9m5m wrote

It is important that you know the people she will be staying with. Do they have firearms safely secured, do they have a working smoke alarm and carbon monoxide detector, might someone in the home abuse a little girl? I would want to have visited their home if possible, or at least meet the parents to form an idea of their trustworthiness. The questions we need answers to arenā€™t ones we can comfortably ask openly, but hopefully we can get a good idea of a personā€™s character by spending time with them.

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