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CheeseburgerBrown t1_ixlssyq wrote
The way this is phrased this LPT sounds like a threat.
deepfriedchooza t1_ixlsvy7 wrote
I've had the most wonderful and the deepest conversations with my dad throughout the day. Trust me it's totally worth it and if it wasn't for those conversations i can comfortably say i wouldnt be the person that i am today.
djdan01 t1_ixltgu9 wrote
Be nice to your dad or I’ll make you regret it haha
CheeseburgerBrown t1_ixltkbu wrote
“I’ll give you something to cry about!”
badbardbarge t1_ixltubc wrote
My brother asked me to play MtG all the time before he died and I feel awful for every time I told him no. I still think about it all the time
PatchyGene t1_ixlulv2 wrote
Someone who never had the opportunity to have a dad, I would do this
mnbvcxz123 t1_ixluwsn wrote
As a dad, I approve of this message.
Rubberfootman t1_ixlv790 wrote
This also works the other way around. You only get a fairly short amount of time with your kids before they grow up and move on.
sensitivepistachenut t1_ixlvrdn wrote
Meh, he usually just watches us playing console games for a while and then leaves the room. Usually when we chat, the conversations are awkwardly formal, so he just spends time on his computer and I playing video games with my siblings in our own room
DiFToXin t1_ixlw969 wrote
yeah i think this LPT only applies to functional families
Amazing_Library_5045 t1_ixlxpgt wrote
Is... Is that a threat?
bruno_do t1_ixlxwqx wrote
What was the need of this comment??
Tea-Loving_Linguist t1_ixlxzdu wrote
But if your mum comes in for a chat, “piss off, I’m busy!”
fatjeff1980 t1_ixly0un wrote
My sons are both teenagers. I don't go in their room. I'm scared of what I'll see. And the smell is enough to keep me away anyway.
RealMudflapper t1_ixlz0l1 wrote
Right, but I think OP is saying; your dad could go in his sleep tomorrow and ten years from now you could be devastated that you never got to know him as a man, not just a parent. I lost my dad when I was 26 and every single day I wish I had made more of an effort to engage him more often. I though I had plenty of time but brain cancer took him at 69. That probably sounds crazy old to you but trust me, it’s not. I was robbed.
exploooooosions t1_ixlzbnp wrote
No this one person's experience proves that the LPT is incorrect ;)
exploooooosions t1_ixlzfmv wrote
As a dad I have to say that the same advice is true for parents.
glowstick90 t1_ixlzo1x wrote
The way this is phrased, this LPT sounds like a regret
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Ahielia t1_ixm16km wrote
Yup, I realised this after my dad died.
dreamer288 t1_ixm16qm wrote
I lost my dad in September. He was only 62 years old when we found out he was sick in March, he deteriorated and died in 6 months. We were lucky to have those 6 months in a way but it was still sudden and a shock. It still feels like it all happened to quickly.
Op says dad but it can really be anyone you love and care about. Cherish them while you can because you just never know.
Abernathy999 t1_ixm1gjx wrote
Big hugs internet friend. It is a valuable lesson, but I'm sure your brother loves you immensely and wants only for you to enjoy a good, joyful, and free life for yourself.
TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixm2coe wrote
I think this is a good tip for people with emotionally healthy families.
I deeply regret the time I spent with my dad over the years. He has been gone over twenty years now and I have not missed him yet.
Pro tip: Life is short. Spend yours with people who care about you.
unsbeforeyoudoef t1_ixm2x84 wrote
Miss my dad more than I knew possible. Would give anything for an afternoon with him.
Tw1sttt t1_ixm2xpl wrote
Thank you
hungdown t1_ixm2zar wrote
If you could do me a small favor and build a time machine then go back and tell my father this... that'd be great
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cybercuzco t1_ixm3hxm wrote
A family friend just committed suicide. He had 3 kids. Take this advice seriously.
DanimalPlays t1_ixm3rma wrote
Nah. Some parents are intrusive assholes. Respect that your kid has decided to do something. They are allowed to be busy.
lovelivesforever t1_ixm41yk wrote
Yeah haha, neither my mum or dad ever did that. Solidarity to the kids of emotional neglect peppered with abuse. Imagining it is nice though
Imnothere_goaway t1_ixm47aj wrote
Depends on the dad
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somethingcool627 t1_ixm5xrh wrote
I second this. My dad came into my room when i was studying for my exams and talked about his life, talked about valuable life lessons and he gave me great advice, at the time i didn't think much of it and to be honest i was a bit weirded out like where did that come from but he died 1 week later in his sleep due to heart attack. I still remeber his words and live by them everyday. Its been 11 years now and i am 25.
He was the most honest, respectable individual i have ever known. Everybody loved him and had nice things to say about him , never spoke a bad word from his mouth. A person to look up to.
grumblyoldman t1_ixm6aru wrote
I remember reading somewhere that by the time your kid is 10 years old, you've already statistically spent about 70% of the time that you ever will with them. You'll still see them, of course, (as long as you maintain a good relationship) but it will be in smaller and smaller chunks as they get busy with their own lives.
Absolutely, cherish the time you have while you have it.
Rubberfootman t1_ixm6j6z wrote
Sorry. If it helps, I’m really making an effort to stop what I’m doing when my boys want to chat.
sensitivepistachenut t1_ixm6ojp wrote
I understand and I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope he was a man who loved to listen his children and do a constructive discussion when a chance would occur. Don't get me wrong, but the thing is, my dad is a bit stubborn, gets easily irritated and never admits he was wrong. And oh boy, when in mood, he just loves to talk about himself, but he also ignores my attempts to talk, so it's a kinda fruitless conversation. I do know a lot about him, but apparently he is fine being distant with us children.
UnKnow_762 t1_ixm6pet wrote
Your so right. I missed my grandpa in the hospital cuz of ignorance, super regret. I got to hold my mom's hand as she took her last breath thankfully. I hate cancer. I now live with my dad as I'm pretty sure he's getting Alzheimer's. If you have a good relationship with your parents then spend as much time with them as possible, ask them about there days, learn everything you can from them.
tsukareta_kenshi t1_ixm6vbo wrote
Lost my dad while I was in university. We had a terrible relationship while I was in high school, and we had just started repairing our relationship after 7 or 8 years of strife.
Really do miss him sticking his head in my room while I was trying to frag in Team Fortress.
Alundra828 t1_ixm7438 wrote
Never really saw eye to eye with my dad while I was growing up. We clashed a lot and didn't get along. We were very distant.
He didn't get me, and I didn't get him. Even when we started playing WoW together, we still were so distant. Eventually we went off and did our own things on WoW, and even though we were in the same house, playing the same game, we were on different servers, chatting to different people. And both of us were too proud to say "yo, wanna play together?"
Now I've gotten older, he's much more comfortable talking to me and he gets visibly excited when I show up for a chat. It's nice to see that my dad likes me. Get in as many memories as you can boiz.
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Fun_Amount3063 t1_ixm7cu1 wrote
Why is this geared to only one parent? This sub isn’t your diary. Find a therapist if you regret your life choices.
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asleepaddict t1_ixm7iv3 wrote
Also, spend it with people who truly bring you happiness. Not everyone cares in a healthy manner, despite the loving words they say.
When you grow up with an unstable family, it is easy to wind up with unstable friends or partners. Stay aware, and stand up for yourself.
timmyboyoyo t1_ixm7k1a wrote
It is then when you will win
meinlalex t1_ixm7y9g wrote
This resonates more and more with me now that I'm in my late twenties and my dad is in his 60's. Neither of us are getting younger and I'm just trying to appreciate his company as much as I can, while I can. Luckily I still live close enough to him that I can see him about once a week, I definitely don't take that for granted.
Karnezar t1_ixm7yah wrote
Years of alcohol and drugs have affected my father mentally. We can't have a proper conversation because he's quick to anger, especially when something is meant to be understood abstractly and he can't grasp it and he knows he can't and doesn't want to appear weak or dumb.
Like I told him I made money trading stocks and now he thinks I'm going to be the next Warren Buffet. And when I told him the stock market was down so I lost money, he got angry and thinks like, one person in DC is responsible.
audiate t1_ixm84lc wrote
My dad never came in for a chat. He was either yelling or swinging.
djdan01 t1_ixm85yh wrote
I’d think most pro tips come from life experiences. Hence the name of the sub. And you clearly don’t have to take that I related the post to my ‘dad’ so literally. Clearly many people in the comments have related this post to other family members or friends
Wyld_1 t1_ixm8fut wrote
Yup. This. My daughter got married this summer and isn't going to be home for Thanksgiving.
FaceDownInTheCake t1_ixm8g3r wrote
If you are a guy and get married, I strongly urge you to consider making your dad your best man.
My dad was my best man because he's my best friend, and I could tell it meant a lot to him. Way more than it would've meant to any of my peer-friends.
jackback52 t1_ixm8jrp wrote
This
My dads only been gone for 5 months and i still think about him everyday.
hello134566679 t1_ixm8jry wrote
Asleepaddict waking up thekidsareasleep
rentalredditor t1_ixm8m8v wrote
You deeply regret the time you spent with your dad?
Razorback_Yeah t1_ixm8us4 wrote
Not everyone has a good dad
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Tallahkz t1_ixm9hbw wrote
You need to find a therapist.
Edit: Look at that post history...
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lady_laughs_too_much t1_ixm9mxn wrote
I like hanging out with my parents a lot. Problem is, both me and my dad are quiet people, so we just sit in silence. It's comfortable silence, but I would like to have more conversations with him. Any ideas?
villanuevahacienda t1_ixm9ra0 wrote
My dad spent years beating the shit out of my mother while I watched in terror as a small child. This is not a LPT. OP need to learn that not everyone has the same life experience they do. This is frankly an incredibly stupid thing to say.
nobutactually t1_ixm9ue7 wrote
Agreed. Wish I could have escaped more of my dad's chats. My life is a much better place without him in it.
MothMan3759 t1_ixm9xxk wrote
My life would have been exponentially better without my stepfather being in it
somethingcool627 t1_ixma4kc wrote
I definitely think he knew it was time but he never showed it even in last days. He had a heart attack before and was admitted to hospital for 3 weeks and then he was cleared to return home and recover. After 2 weeks he then had another in his sleep and never woke up.
It shook us all actually because we thought it was over but it was false hope kinda thing. I wasn't so emotional at the time, i did cry my eyes out but i didn't grasp the loss of my dad until much later on in life. I guess when its your time its your time. I just wish he could have lived a little longer to see all his hardwork paying off because all his kids are all grown up and doing great in life, thanks to god.
mapex_139 t1_ixma7js wrote
My dad was an asshole and a con artist against his own family. He's been gone a year and I only think about him when my mother mentions him.
spiralamber t1_ixmak7f wrote
Too blanket of a statement. I don't miss my Dad, my Mom on the other hand...
ImRedditorRick t1_ixmaoyk wrote
My dad doesn't do chats.
Cup_Realistic t1_ixmarkf wrote
Misery needs company.
rentalredditor t1_ixmb0at wrote
That's a bummer. I hope you have others in your life that truly care about you. Happy Thanksgiving
poetic-cheese t1_ixmb209 wrote
Sounds like a threat! No supper for me, daddy?
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Cup_Realistic t1_ixmb8cp wrote
It wasnt for people with your experience.
neonglowputty t1_ixmbbpu wrote
goes for mom too. ive always been insanely close with my dad but would butt heads with my mom often. she can be... difficult. but in recent years, ive learned to move past a lot of things, dealing with the parts of her that drive me up the wall so that i can appreciate her good qualities. it took time. a lot of it. and she also needed to change a little bit too cause in the beginning it wouldve been impossible for me to do that
but yeah... we butt heads with our parents. if your parent is anything like my mom, they mean well but have weird ways of showing it. sometimes you just need to rise above. its worth it.
villanuevahacienda t1_ixmbtet wrote
Life pro tip means a pro tip for life. People have diverse life experiences. A pro tip should be applicable to a wide range of life experiences, otherwise it's not a life pro tip, it's just a suggestion aimed at one specific group.
Insect_Jaded t1_ixmc5u8 wrote
Nice try dad, I'm still not giving you the formula.
Cup_Realistic t1_ixmca8y wrote
Sorry for your trauma. I wish you the best.
FierceCupcake t1_ixmcar9 wrote
LPT: Remember there's more to the saying "blood is thicker than water." The full saying is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Don't ever feel guilty for choosing your chosen family over biological "family."
mountainvalkyrie t1_ixmcd9n wrote
Mine was like that, too. Sometimes even if I tried open-ended questions, he just gave short answers. And once he got older, I tried a lot to extend conversations because I never knew which might be the last. But most of my favourite memories with him are just doing things together - gardening, woodworking, once we drove out somewhere and just enjoyed to view in silence. Having something to do with your hands can sometimes make conversation easier. Asking to see his photo books is a good one, too, because he can tell you the background of the photos.
If you need ideas, just googling "questions to ask your parents" will get you a good list of potential convo starters and of course taking an interest in his work, hobbies, other things he likes helps. Don't be too hard on yourself if he just isn't the chatty type, though.
kykyks t1_ixmceng wrote
Cause people like you and op told me all my life i should be the bigger person and forgive my dad for all the abuse he did for my entire childhood cause "he wont be here forever and you'll feel sad someday" but dont give a shit about how shit i was feeling back then and saw his abuse as "though love/trying his best".
Fuck that shit.
Barging into my room and being annoying as shit isnt the way for me to spend time with him.
Respecting boundaries and personnal space is. That would have maybe saved a shred of respect for him.
Thats how a relationship get healthy, not you acting like everything was ok when your dad does a shitty thing, even if its not that bad everytime.
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I wont even begin with the fact that a parent not respecting that kind of boundaries is a red flag for more shit to come.
Skiller66 t1_ixmcgfj wrote
Man. All of this will really happen one day. I don’t know why your comment cemented that for me. It’s just so casual, how life marches forward despite our protests.
PrinceHumperTinkTink t1_ixmci4i wrote
Agreed. Took me way too long to figure out how I could be "busy for a chat".
OmegaMkXII t1_ixmcivf wrote
No thanks. My dad allowed his wife to abuse me for years, so fuck that. He can go die in a hole for all I care.
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Nearby-Elevator-3825 t1_ixmd4qo wrote
One of my favorite recent memories is putting my two younger kids to bed and my oldest came into my room and we just kinda hung out until 1am on a school/work night.
DontTaintMeBro t1_ixmd5s8 wrote
It'll be 5 years for me next week. Still think about him every day too.
It gets easier, but never easy. Stay strong!
TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixmdd1y wrote
Thanks! I am really lucky to have made it to adulthood but I am married with two amazing kids. Life is good!
ErrantIndy t1_ixmddzj wrote
This.
If ya gotta good family, y’all should both make time for each other. But you should also respect each other’s boundaries. Sometimes ya need to be alone and focused.
I’m a writer. I love my boyfriend and my roommate, but they gotta respect my writing time for the focus I need as much as I respect their need for focus in their own activities. But we can also tell when we aren’t devoted doing something and THAT’s when it’s time to interact.
Such_Radio8860 t1_ixmdgws wrote
My dad came in my room told me to go buy milk at the store I did and he was gone when I came back.
360walkaway t1_ixmdiyu wrote
Thank you. All these tips assume a lot about stability.
silvertondevil t1_ixmdjem wrote
I haven't spoken to my mother in four years. her husband died a year ago from cancer. The catalyst was my niece saying he sexually abused her. You already know which side my mother went with.
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Yakuza_Matata t1_ixmdo0n wrote
I bet he would be damn proud of his kids.
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Drewtendo_64 t1_ixmdpst wrote
This really also. depends on the Dad, my father wasn't the best when it came to being sober at times, so I'd rather not talk to him at 2am after he had been watching Nascar all day.
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navneetmuffin t1_ixmdx20 wrote
Thank you so much for saying this
jinxykatte t1_ixme01l wrote
Did you just fucking watch American Pie?
Front_Intern t1_ixme1by wrote
My dad gave up on me a few years back. I gave up on him a years before that.
McNabFish t1_ixme4b3 wrote
This one resonates.
Dad died from a brain tumour in my early 20s. He used to ring me every day when I was at university but some days I'd just ignore the call as I was out socialising or playing on the xbox.
A year after he passed I got a new phone on warranty and only after realised that the voice mails didn't carry over. That was just as tough to get over.
chodthewacko t1_ixme6ny wrote
Ask him what his favorite things are (pick one topic - hobby, place, car, whatever he seems like he kind of likes) and ask him to tell you about it/why he likes it. People generally love to talk about things they love. Hopefully you like it/understand the interest. And actually listen and stay engaged. Ask questions about things he's vague on.
Conversations are two way streets. Hopefully you also find an intersection of interests yoy both like and then you can both dive into
IrredeemableJoke t1_ixme7d8 wrote
My dad was the same. When I heard his foot steps approaching my door I'd instinctively brace myself for what's to come. I hope you're doing well. I'm still recovering from the damage it did to me
montessoriprogram t1_ixmegcs wrote
It’s literally a thread about relationships with dads. This commenter has it right despite the emotional charge. Boundaries are important.
AproposWuin t1_ixmeid9 wrote
Dad here. From 6 to 9 yr Olds here.
Goes both ways. Parrents be sure to look and listen to the kids when they come by
KiwiKal t1_ixmekyv wrote
You got to grow up without abusive parents?
djdan01 t1_ixmesix wrote
You’re welcome. I’m glad some people seem to agree
badhershey t1_ixmetlq wrote
OP is a dad whose kid hurt their feelings
ClassicMidwest t1_ixmew88 wrote
As a Dad who didn’t have a Dad and has a hard time navigating relationships with my two kids, this hits. House full of love but not many meaningful conversations. I feel time slipping away for sure and try to engage more. Kids in their teens however are pretty wrapped up in finding themselves as well. Hard to not feel intrusive.
kykyks t1_ixmexpn wrote
*goes in a thread about relationship with dads*
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> Nobody in this thread cares about your relationship with your dad
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You really aint the big brain you think you are mate.
LauraSolo23 t1_ixmeyzk wrote
As a daughter, happy Thanksgiving Dad!
My dad just passed away last week..I didn't think I'd miss anyone this much. I just wanted to be able to send a message to "dad" right now
TheKidsAreAsleep t1_ixmf57o wrote
Yep. He was a trip. Loved to tell me that I should kill myself. Gave specific recommendations as to how he thought I should do it. Asked if I needed supplies, etc.
In public, he loved to say “there is nothing more important than for a child to be wanted” while looking right at me.
chodthewacko t1_ixmf6zb wrote
Conversations are a two way street. A real conversation involves both sides. And it can simply be hard to get that street opened up due to age gap, authority, gender, whatever.
I think the heart of the OP is that if someone is trying to open up on their side, and this is a person who you would like to talk to/know, then you should take advantage of the opportunity to talk /listen while you have it.
Now it may turn out (or you may already know) that that street has nothing but pain. In that case, of course, there is far less of a reason to.
djdan01 t1_ixmf7dj wrote
I just got to a certain age and suddenly felt guilty for being grumpy all the time with my dad, when he was clearly just trying to spend time with me
Swimwithamermaid t1_ixmfda8 wrote
My mom died when I was 16. We didn’t get along all that well, especially in the last year of her life because she was extremely ill, I just didn’t understand it att. But her last 3 months were the best I’ve ever had with her. She would come into my room and we’d talk for hours about boys and what I wanted to do with my life. It was great and those are memories I’ll cherish for the rest of my life. There isn’t a day that goes by without thinking about her, even more so now that I have children of my own. I wish I could explain to her just how sorry I am about the way I treated her as a teen. She died January 1st. Anyways, life’s a bitch, then you die. Be kind, you never know when it will be the last time you speak to that person.
ITdoug t1_ixmffib wrote
This is such a great response. Kudos to you
HouseOfZenith t1_ixmfg1q wrote
I wouldn’t be annoyed if he learned to KNOCK.
Gunzenator2 t1_ixmfiz2 wrote
I have learned not to regret things. It’s like a rocking chair, you put in a lot of effort and get nowhere.
kds_little_brother t1_ixmfkx4 wrote
> I remember the last time I held (picked up) both of them, and I held them at the same time, which they both remember, and yesterday felt very much like that.
So you did make them come home?
WatcherYdnew t1_ixmfly5 wrote
This is emotional blackmail and I'm not here for it.
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CheezedBeefins t1_ixmfn04 wrote
I feel like ya maybe glossed over the part where he hates his dad.
Nopeitsnotmenoone t1_ixmfqw1 wrote
As a person who just lost my Nana this morning, please, please remember this.
jdbrizzi91 t1_ixmfw76 wrote
It's been awhile since my dad has been in my room, but I certainly agree with this. I didn't realize how much those small talks meant until I lost my last grandparent. Now I can see my parents are next in line, so I make sure to answer each and every phone call from them and I try not to get frustrated over little things. They certainly won't be here forever, so I need to make every moment matter.
Perrenekton t1_ixmfx7b wrote
Not a LPT. A Rant from a father. Or a rant from someone who lost is father
WatcherYdnew t1_ixmfzck wrote
Right? I text with my mum and sister every day and I often think "I need to talk to my dad more he's not getting younger", but I honest to god have no idea what we should talk about and he doesn't put a lot of effort into keeping any talk I do start going. We don't hate each other, we just have... Nothing in common.
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TetheredToHeaven_ t1_ixmg9ff wrote
grateful for the chuckle
MuteStarNeet t1_ixmgcdr wrote
Really does
Im closer to my mom than my dad because he caused my family so much drama...not even close to my sisters either so much so i don't have any connection to them because they were almost never in my life. only my mom has really been there for me, the other day i had this realization. when my mom goes will i live in regret because the missed conversations, missed jokes and overall moments. Wondering did i do enough?
we think we have all the time in the world and do to an extent but one day that will end
I got my first pet/cat last year and it really put this idea into overdrive after realising their life span. Its a black cat and when i see something in the corner of my eye i think i see the cat but its some random stuff that looked like it. Having thoughts of entropy when the cat meets their end long after, i might think i see it when it's not there and its going to hurt even now i zone out so deeply i feel it now.
same thing probably applies for our loved ones, i was home alone and I thought my mom was sitting watching tv but she was at work and remembered entropy is a thing
The life tip OP wrote is great but it applies to more the just fathers depending on the circumstances
kds_little_brother t1_ixmggxm wrote
Ah ok 😂 I was gonna say I can appreciate the sentiment but I doubt the kids would
analest-analyst t1_ixmgioq wrote
Good advice.
Source: dad.
shebabbleslikeaidiot t1_ixmgjz8 wrote
Boy I wish I could have a random conversation with my dad again. I miss that man every day. If you have a good relationship with your parents, talk to them and visit them as much as possible!!!
PM_ME_UR_CATS_TITS t1_ixmgvpr wrote
"your dad comes into your room while you’re busy for a chat" - Whats that?
coffeeearl t1_ixmh2ii wrote
This is me with any family member who is excited to tell me something or a random story, especially my grandma. Sometimes I’m super busy or not interested but I know I’ll regret not seeing that glow/excitement for whatever the heck she’s talking about.
allcars4me t1_ixmh81d wrote
This is true. I regret not talking to my elders more. They would’ve been happy to hear me talk about anything, no matter how mundane.
tornadoterror t1_ixmhf4l wrote
Any common hobbies? You can talk about it.
Or a tv show/movie you both like. Sometimes I'd recommend a movie to my dad and we would watch it at the same time. We don't talk much during the movie but have a few chat while watching. We even do this while watching the news sometimes.
nomadicmaya t1_ixmhi7x wrote
My dad hasn't spoken to me in two years, much less wanted to chat lmao
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DELUXEBEAST t1_ixmhqix wrote
Honestly it's too late. I never received a good job or well done when I did well in school but when I started falling behind parents were very vocal about it now I tried hard to do better but I couldn't get back to where I was and started to not care and was becoming depressed. Want to know what my dad said to me "you're not trying, I give up". He gave up on me for years all the way through school and even after. Too little too late
oby2 t1_ixmhske wrote
So true, I’ve told my wife the secret to time travel is having a kid, and even then it’s not as cool as it sounds. Everything just progresses at 1.25x speed.
kinderhaulf t1_ixmi4g4 wrote
Dad, I really enjoy these chats but I'm going to need you to give me back the key to my house.
ZanyWayney t1_ixmikl1 wrote
I found out my dad has prostate cancer, and at first the prognosis was very bad. This is the only thing that went through my head. All those times where I got annoyed at his dumb jokes, or didn't call when I should have nag at me. The guilt of deciding to feel that way in those moments is a lot, and I am so happy I get a second chance to show him what he's meant to me my whole life.
redditwitfries t1_ixmin9n wrote
My dad tried doing this when I was close to thirty years old. But he's never taken interest in me and he's never taken the time to know who I am besides his son. He struggles to ask questions and conversate cause he's always been quiet all my life. I try to be welcoming but it's so hard to make conversation cause I don't know him and he doesn't know me. Any tips to help with this?
[deleted] OP t1_ixmivw2 wrote
This is very true.
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[deleted] OP t1_ixmjllm wrote
My mom died in July. I wish I had respected the reality of this. Instead, I punted the hard conversation, thinking I would have time. Mom and I always had a strained relationship, and I could never find the words.
Don't do that when it's your turn. I cry a lot. And I miss her so much.
takeahike89 t1_ixmjzf3 wrote
If mine opens up its only about Hunter's laptop and the Deep State.
WatcherYdnew t1_ixmkdtq wrote
I get an occasional "You need to watch this new Scandinavian Netflix show" lol
paulusmagintie t1_ixmkre1 wrote
Yeai don't regret it with my dad, he destroyed our relationship by being a drunk.
These LPTs never take into account abusive families
80H-d t1_ixml5ro wrote
It's ok. These feelings mean you're doing things right
rsn_e_o t1_ixmm4ng wrote
Anybody can make money in the short term through luck. But almost nobody on planet earth can outperform large indexed in the long run.
rsn_e_o t1_ixmmw4u wrote
ImRedditorRick t1_ixmn7q3 wrote
I learned very little about life and such from my dad. He isn't a big talker to me/us. My brother's kids? Always available, always wanting to play, etc.
Generally speaking, actual relationship wise and life-advice needing, I'll be totally fine when they pass.
Karnezar t1_ixmnhm2 wrote
You're missing the point.
rsn_e_o t1_ixmsx6h wrote
No sorry I got your point, thought I’d add the why your dad was wrong
FoxtrotSierraTango t1_ixmtp7t wrote
My parents were right about a lot of things, but as a kid you can't see it. Yes, it would be nice if I could play the piano now, but words can't describe how much I hated it as a kid. I might have more opportunities today if I had finished college, but I wasn't ready right after high school. A lot of them being hard on me ended up preparing me remarkably well for my professional life.
It's largely just another instance of delayed gratification like saving for retirement or making time for the gym. If you can suffer though actually being with your parents as a teen, you might appreciate having spent that time when you're older.
badbardbarge t1_ixmunry wrote
Hey thanks <3 it’s so easy to forget that there were games where I did say yes.
Fun_Amount3063 t1_ixmxrop wrote
Pro tips are meant to be rather universal. Again, find a therapist or diary if you want to lament about your regrets.
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mnbvcxz123 t1_ixn56rw wrote
Message received! Thanks.
With my own son, I find I am feeling awkward at times because I don't want to be one of those annoying dads who imposes himself on his kid. So I hold back. But maybe that's the wrong thing.
IlIIlIlIlIIlIIlIllll t1_ixn5jli wrote
For sure. OP's tip is exactly the opposite for abusive family members.
djdan01 t1_ixn708c wrote
I don't have any regrets tho lmao
Fun_Amount3063 t1_ixniqxy wrote
You clearly do if you made this post and keep trying to defend it. lmao
djdan01 t1_ixo1078 wrote
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bswiftly t1_ixov7eu wrote
I hope he doesn't have a friend Jack who has a horse. Because one day he might have to help Jack off his horse.
DeadliestStork t1_ixp54gq wrote
Considering the amount of rank diapers I’ve changed I would feel entitled to do that to my daughter. I didn’t think it was possible for something so small and cute to produce something so foul, but she does it daily. Don’t worry I won’t do that to my daughter I want our time together to be positive and enjoyed by both parties. She did shart herself while sitting in my lap two days ago, it was hilarious until I had to change her diaper.
keepthetips t1_ixlsn2w wrote
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