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For real. Too many people try to be assertive but end up in real life "when keeping it real goes wrong" skits.

This should be a whole class in school.

This is horseshit. Learn how to leave the ego at the door and communicate with compassion to focus on the solution, not the problem. And never use email for this.

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It's not ego, they're just all wrong!

This is the most vague LPT here.

Most people only speak up when they feel like it is a genuine topic where they need to be heard.

Also, it's important to speak up at work because that's how you set boundaries, and precedents for how you want to be treated.

This is so vague that it is actually harmful advice.

Like, who is this directed at? I really want my upper management to speak up on issues, even ones that aren't essential...because speaking up early and often is how you avoid problems in the first place. And guess who ends up having to deal with the problems? The peons like me.

And even low-level peons should be encouraged to speak up...even for piddly stuff. Because 1) what may seem piddly now might actually not be piddly tomorrow and 2) there is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing your views so that others are aware of the pitfalls they may not be thinking about.

I don't care if you have an ulterior motive when you speak up in a staff meeting or an email chain At least you are trying to contribute something to the discussion. It is up to your manager to rein you in if your contributions aren't helpful. Don't waste any fucks on what the apathetic peanut gallery may think.