Cultural_Star_6355 t1_iu34024 wrote on October 28, 2022 at 4:59 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️ I hope you’re able to find info from fam members or photos to give insight into some of them! I do love this tip. Was diagnosed with cancer last year (I’m in my 30s) and have two young kids…even though I am done with treatment and there’s no evidence of disease, I still spiral thinking about how and what I want to leave for my girls to help keep my memory alive for them especially since they’re still so young now. But it’s overwhelming trying to figure out what to do and just finishing active treatment has made me spiral a bit, but hearing your perspective - which I hate you even have to have 😢 - helped me.

AcroAmo OP t1_iu51mr7 wrote on October 28, 2022 at 4:31 PM

Thank you for your thoughts.

It sounds as though you are in remission? That must have been some hard shit to work through. Truly, I’m happy to hear the treatment worked and I hope it continues to be enough.

You could create email addresses for your children and send them notes. Or it could just be handwritten notes to be opened later. As an adult now, the story behind the stuff is more meaningful because I can see my mom as both a mom and as a woman. That was much murkier when I was young and before I had my own child. Your littles might like to enjoy notes of you expressing your love and hopes for them. Perhaps some memories that are ‘big’ (big means different things to different people). And pictures together.

Wishing you well.

Cultural_Star_6355 t1_iu7o24o wrote on October 29, 2022 at 4:38 AM

Yes currently in remission and hoping to stay that way! 🙏🏻 Thanks for that insight…I know that may have been hard to write and ponder but I appreciate the thoughtful response because those are wonderful ideas. Sending hugs and strength your way ♥️