i_do_it_all t1_itg8q34 wrote on October 23, 2022 at 12:42 PM

call me an asshole. I had a very difficult life. I hsve seen people's true colour too often to know most are bad.

even though, now I have financial and academic leverage, I continue to under play my cards. people show their true colours rather quickly when they confuse my humility for weakness.

example, I was at a commission based baby furniture store. I look rather shabby and not well dressed. small unkempt beard. this sales lady I asked for help, she was like wait 20 min , let me take care of something, I look over,she started helping someone who came after me. I waited a bit and asked an older gentleman for help. he wanted to help. bought my 4800$ furniture from him in 15 minutes. that lady was staring the whole time. eventually came and told the Jr salesman, they were my customer. I just said NO loudly.

so ya. hold your colors inside people. let them show theirs.

the-practical_cat t1_itgbm95 wrote on October 23, 2022 at 1:09 PM

I learned to do the same thing from my dad. Anyone who treated him as "less than" when he was filthy after work would never get his business again, but he'd make sure they knew their competition was getting his cash. And on the rare occasions when he was treated better than average because he looked awful, he'd go out of his way to make sure that business got as many new customers as possible.

Simba7 t1_itghddy wrote on October 23, 2022 at 1:58 PM

"Big mistake, huge!"

Canyoubackupjustabit t1_itgdrp2 wrote on October 23, 2022 at 1:28 PM

Very good advice.

BackWaterBill t1_itgsxgb wrote on October 23, 2022 at 3:23 PM

My dad did basically the exact thing buying a hoover vacuum back in 90's. He was a surfer kid, but making some decent money anyway he goes in and he gets snubbed by the first salesman before moving onto another and saying no to the payment plan, only to pull out a roll of cash.

SugerPlume t1_itgnxjr wrote on October 23, 2022 at 2:48 PM

Seriously though, that saleswoman is trying to earn a living. How many times do you think someone came in and just wasted her time and cost her money?

FudgeOfDarkness t1_itgoq5b wrote on October 23, 2022 at 2:53 PM

I mean, sure, but you can't try to claim someone else's work for a commission when they stepped up to do your job