This is the way. My mom used the “it’s all going in the trash if not” way. And it just stresses me to the point I couldn’t think. It all seemed like too much. Eventually as a teen I kept my room super tidy. But not because of her. Because I liked it that way, and had figured out how to do it that way. She prides herself in the fact her parenting worked. It didn’t. I had to make a conscious effort to get my room the way it was but before I had no freakin clue how to bring about a “conscious effort”. Was actually MTV cribs that got me into it. I wanted my space to look like theirs