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YellowWizard99 t1_iu8bxza wrote
Date who you want but if someone is 20 years younger, what do you think is going to happen?
Strange-Glove t1_iu8c0zj wrote
Except for the fact that there are very important rules
Strange-Glove t1_iu8c28m wrote
Your honour
ArchangelBlu t1_iu8cgt2 wrote
So if I'm 18 I can date someone who is 16?
This tool should stay in the toolbox permanently
Herpestr t1_iu8ch7p wrote
This rule is pretty well known and generally a good convention to take.
A relationship with a bigger age gap than suggested by this is going to have a weird power dynamic, because of the different life experiences and life positions of the people involved. If you're the younger person in this relationship, don't kid yourself that it makes you mature.
MrGangster1 t1_iu8cwdb wrote
I don’t see the issue tbh. 18 and 16 is fine.
redditloginfail t1_iu8gkzq wrote
As a 44 year old dude 29 seems ridiculous. I have kids in their 20s.
LuckForJug t1_iu8oepa wrote
I mean I get 30 and 20 is weird, but 40 and 30 seems ok, youre not gonna get so much more mature when you're 30.
SionTheImaginaryMan t1_iu8ql1b wrote
It might be weird to most but honestly it’s legal. It’s funny how the government already has a billion laws for us and yet we still make up more laws for ourselves. That’s a real closed box.
nuncaMeHabiaPasado t1_iu8qnsm wrote
Well, the formula uses just numbers...
kubadawarrior t1_iu8vrj4 wrote
You'll have a great time possibly? I mean what's the difference once they're a grown up? I'm 33 and feel and act like I'm 16-18 most of the time. Girlfriend is 22 and is more mature than me, if I was to be with a woman aged according to the rule I'd have a hard time living up to her expectations possibly plus the pool of women interested that would suit me and vice versa would be much smaller.
Bottom line, once they're and adult age doesn't matter, do whomever makes you happy
Tittle42 t1_iu8zvn5 wrote
By this formula you can date 24 year olds.
If you need to date very young women it’s because you like them malleable
Tittle42 t1_iu907c6 wrote
This formula 30 and 40 is ok. The formula corrects for larger age gaps as you get older. At 70 yo person can date a 42 but a 20 yo can’t date 16
Tittle42 t1_iu90c7m wrote
These people could literally be in the same high school, hell it could be a junior and senior
Tittle42 t1_iu90hd3 wrote
It’s not that you should do this, but anything less is creepy
kubadawarrior t1_iu962i0 wrote
Yeah so technically I'm a creep because my gf is off this formula by two years.
Tittle42 t1_iu9f0y4 wrote
Anyone can fall for anyone, specifically looking for young women…yes creepy
kubadawarrior t1_iu9h0l1 wrote
That's the whole point I'm trying to make, take your rule and stuff it, two years aint shit
Davidouchoff t1_iu9kz17 wrote
There is the law. Everything you add is your own rule and "appropriate" is subjective.
be_smarter_please t1_iu9m7ag wrote
Ok creep.
LowKeyRebelx t1_iu9r950 wrote
Yep, if you are both adults and really like each other the "age gap" is fine. Love is just a number. Don't ever allow something as ridiculous as an "age gap" to keep you from being with someone you love.
LowKeyRebelx t1_iu9rdxv wrote
QV79Y t1_iua6j02 wrote
Don't date anyone underage is the only rule.
If you're smart, there are lots of situations you'll avoid, but that isn't a rule.
QV79Y t1_iua6slp wrote
My cousin married a 19-year man when she was 42 and had a 16-year-old daughter.
Guess what? She's in her 80s now and they're still married. Happily, from what I can see.
It's nobody's business. If you don't want to do it yourself, you don't have to.
Strange-Glove t1_iua7n5q wrote
You said there are no rules though haha
redditloginfail t1_iuasrb2 wrote
Interesting! Well good for them.
fred_cheese t1_iub5j8w wrote
How's 45 and 30 then? I mean, using kids in their 20s as a metric speaks less about the 44-29 relationship than it comments on how young you were when you had kids.
Laurenslagniappe t1_iubekmv wrote
22 and 33 doesnt seem creepy. BUT just treat her good, cause those are precious years. My ex was 9 years older and really learned on me financially so I wasted some of my best years being used. I dont think this was cause of our age gap, never the less, it felt like it impacted me forever way more than him.
DryOrganization7429 t1_iubidnw wrote
I’m 64 and my 27 yo gf is about to pop a bun :p The relationship doesn’t feel weird at all and works well.
MycologistPutrid7494 t1_iubkj5c wrote
From my experience, age is just a number is usually said by some creep hitting on teens.
kraenk12 t1_iucni3r wrote
Or someone who is mature enough to know that love knows no borders.
redditloginfail t1_iucy6st wrote
Lol it sure does. You got me there.
stuntdonkey t1_iue0fz0 wrote
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