Ok. They’re your relatives. You can’t distance yourself or don’t want to. Doesn’t matter. I have a relative I have distanced myself from as much as possible, however, I do still have to interact at times. She will say shitty things. I used to get mad and she’s follow up with ‘it’s just how I am!’

But now I stop. Stay silent for 5ish seconds and then say, ‘did you really think that was ok to say out loud?’ I am telling you she thinks twice about it now.