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russellvt t1_isxq6xx wrote

The REAL LPT: Don't say shit unless the person either asks, or you're in a tight enough circle to have been invited to the funeral.

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dbsgirl OP t1_isy3bsj wrote

So you agree with me then, since what the post said was to read the obit or write up about the deceased when the acquaintance posts it publicly as many do. For the exact reason of sharing info, asking for support and honoring the person they miss. Nice, glad we got all the way around the circle.

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russellvt t1_itbmntp wrote

>So you agree with me then,

No... What part of don't say shit did you misunderstand?

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dbsgirl OP t1_itc4vda wrote

You forgot this part: "unless the person asks"

The reason people post obituaries or bios on social media is asking for support and wanting to share with others all the wonderful things about the deceased they are going to miss.

Before you say it's for logistical reasons, it isn't. Family and other close friends who will attend services get the service info from texts, calls, emails, etc..

Ironically, one way often suggested to deal with social media posts you don't agree with is also "don't say shit" lol, if you're ok with ignoring that tenet why should I ignore my friends' grief?

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