You may be dealing with a covert/vulnerable narcissist.

Here is my collection of resources around dealing with narcissists:

"Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss. He was the lead FBI hostage negotiator and his tactics work well on setting boundaries with difficult people.

7 options when you can't go no contact

10 rules for surviving life with a narcissist

10 things to never do with narcissists

5 mistakes we make when dealing with a narcissist

5 ways to avoid being used

How to set and keep boundaries with a narcissist

10 ways to set boundaries with a narcissist

Why setting boundaries with a narcissist is so hard

Soul Distancing to protect yourself from narcissists

YouTube channels on narcissism and abuse tactics:

Dr. Ramani - amazing resource on narcissistic behaviors

TheraminTrees - great resource on abuse tactics

Rebecca Zung - a lawyer that got fed up with dealing with narcissists in her practice, so she started teaching others how to negotiate with them. I find her motivational.

Jay Reid - lots of great videos to help understand the narcissistic perspective. Plus ways to "fight back" and act from your values.

Danish Bashir - has a very good understanding of narcissistic mindset

Surviving Narcissism (Dr. Carter) - I like his acronym of DR.C Dignity, Respect, and Civility, and his message of peace. And I think he sometimes misses how the toxic person can twist things around on you.