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bisforbenis t1_jcr05dz wrote

Reply to comment by 8urfiat in LPT: Let people know HOW YOU FEEL on the spot if they wronged you by Zoma456

People can be bothered by a thing without “going in hot”. Having your feelings get hurt but being emotionally mature means you can call it out without rage or impulsivity being in play

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GypsyBagelhands t1_jcr2pw8 wrote

In many cases hormones can get in the way of calling things out without rage. Being emotionally mature means having the presence of mind to know you need to take a minute to cool down and figure out how to articulate your feelings in a calm and collected manner.

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Neat_Art9336 t1_jcroues wrote

Exactly. You can also do both. “We’ll talk about this later, but know I am upset by this.”

A lot of times it doesn’t make sense to bring it up later. “Hey, this thing you did yesterday upsets me.” And the other person will be like, “I don’t remember?” They’re going to think of you as emotionally immature or unpredictable.

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