Yes, I do have advice on this. It sounds like you've done the talk therapy aspect of identifying and processing trauma.

But to truly heal it - you have to repair your nervous system.

In the next couple of weeks - we are releasing multiple episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast about this topic specifically - diving into both the topic of trauma and how you can repair your nervous system and heal yourself.

Regarding your mom - she could turn at any moment.

You can't control that.... you tried to as a kid and look where that ended up. It resulted in trauma in your nervous system. The fact that you're nervous and can't let go is a sign that it's still in there.

You can't "let go" of trauma, you have to repair the parts of your nervous system that are dysregulated right now due to it.

When you do the work to repair - it won't matter what your mother does, because you'll no longer be trigged by it

Make sure to subscribe to The Mel Robbins Podcast so the new episodes on this topic will be downloaded in your queue when they release in the next week or so.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002

We also release new videos daily on our YouTube channel and discuss this quite a bit - https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins