MarikoLia t1_j51ogkt wrote
Mel, I’ve been to therapy and read many books ( yours included) and watched many videos on personal development, I still seem to be hung over my childhood traumas. Now, in my mid 30s, I feel very content with my life, the decisions I’ve made and where I am today, but looking at my husband’s family and hearing about their nice childhood memories, I can’t help but to compare and think back of my own less happy ones. My relationship with my mum is stable and on good terms now, but in the back of my head I feel like she will turn on me any moment now. Any advice to let go of all the childhood trauma? Thanks!
Mel-Robbins OP t1_j51vsqo wrote
Yes, I do have advice on this. It sounds like you've done the talk therapy aspect of identifying and processing trauma.
But to truly heal it - you have to repair your nervous system.
In the next couple of weeks - we are releasing multiple episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast about this topic specifically - diving into both the topic of trauma and how you can repair your nervous system and heal yourself.
Regarding your mom - she could turn at any moment.
You can't control that.... you tried to as a kid and look where that ended up. It resulted in trauma in your nervous system. The fact that you're nervous and can't let go is a sign that it's still in there.
You can't "let go" of trauma, you have to repair the parts of your nervous system that are dysregulated right now due to it.
When you do the work to repair - it won't matter what your mother does, because you'll no longer be trigged by it
Make sure to subscribe to The Mel Robbins Podcast so the new episodes on this topic will be downloaded in your queue when they release in the next week or so.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002
We also release new videos daily on our YouTube channel and discuss this quite a bit - https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments