>Would the people who love you

Well there's your problem.

I wish I saw it that way

Right, and no I wouldn't tell them that, because its not their fault. But they were a victim of circumstance, not bad luck. Someone made the conscious decision to put them in that situation.

This is missing a comma... the message is quite the opposite otherwise... it's currently motivating you to take the temporary comfort opportunity, while it lasts hahaha !

Should be:
Don't burn your opportunities, for a temporary comfort

Thank you, professor u/SpiritStriver90!

I mean I ain't drinking for the month of April, does that count?

The real reason I'm here is that I quit watching YouTube content years ago. I feel it warps your brain. I literally only use it nowadays to learn how to fix something or something like that. Do it! It's worth it!

eh almost

To me, there are two types of confidence which unfortunately share the same name. One is a social script... learned vicariously through being surrounded by people who are also playing out the script. The important thing is that you have to socially relate to them to adopt their behaviors, through friendship or being involved in the same business or team sport. Lets call it scripted confidence.

This scripted confidence can also be passed down through the confidence of parents, siblings, idols, made up characters in movies, books, or games, and the structure of one’s upbringing. But it’s still a learned script. And MOST of its development comes down to caring what people think of you.

I also find it extremely deceptive and dangerous. It’s the foundation of con-men (which even stands for ‘confidence man’) and I’ve seen many people who are celebrated for their confidence lead people, countries, battalions, projects, etc into absolute hell because they were living on pure false scripted behaviors and self belief.

The other form of confidence is gained through the direct knowledge and experience of succeeding. If a basketball player trains to shoot hoops from any angle and distance, to the point that they never miss... then they develop an intrinsic confidence. It's forged into their muscles, into their brain. And when that specific skill translates to winning a game, they walk with a deep self value.

If anyone trains long enough to achieve mastery of a subject or skill, they will subsequently be confident.

Some people have a hybrid form of confidence that exists as a mix of the two… they compound off one another and the combo parades them through life, succeeding both physically and socially.

But the two fundamentals remain:

Intrinsic confidence is earned.

Scripted confidence is learned.

One is learned and developed through osmosis, backed by nothing but blind belief. The other is real and can be silent and formless. Someone who is intrinsically confident can be the butt end of social hierarchy because they don't know the "script" of confidence.

A sharp and intuitive eye can tell the difference in a heartbeat. But most people can’t, nor does it even matter to anyone but those interested in truth and authenticity. Don’t be a fake. Develop intrinsic confidence, don’t be a scripted fake.

Man I don't feel good I don't know what's round me I don't feel good I have nothing to do with the pine I drunk That's besides the facts

That don't even make sense If you Not for anyone how do somebody get was somebody wasn't it you're logical does not make sense If you work hard enough You can get anything you want

Yeah

Confidence is not about other people.

It's about whether you trust yourself to execute what you are doing competently - including social tasks. "To confide" means to place trust in. When we talk of "confidence" as a personal trait, it implicitly means "self-confidence", viz. "I trust in myself".

Genuine confidence thus requires both developed competence and an accurate assessment of that competence. Otherwise, you can either become overconfident (a fool), if you lack the competence; and you can likewise become timid if you have the competence but sell yourself short.

It's a form of trust, fundamentally, and thus does/should operate like all other types of trust.

Meh, nobody loves me. It's oddly freeing.

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Yep, you got the intended core meaning while also rightfully pointing out it was wrapped in problematic wrapping. Good for you :)

Maybe "sometimes you have to do things you feel too tired or bored to do right now, to get where you want to go". That way it makes clear it is just about not to be lazy/unmotivated than a blanket statement against all inhibition even though, as people pointed out in the comments, inhibition also includes moral inhibition, which is a whole different ball of wax.

Bingo! Arrogance is believing or thinking that everyone will like you.

That’s actually arrogance-it’s impossible for everyone to like you.

Confidence is finding the "they" that will like you. Not all people are the same. But we are social beings. So if you have a product, you have to find one who needs it. Or maybe even build the product that people need. But the best product that many people need always faces people who do not like it or even hate it. Confidence is not not caring about others' opinions. It's not being hypersensitive about every last one person's comment on the earth.

Sometimes I also felt like this. Maybe this happens more in places that people are struggling economically and everyone has to take care of themselves and even compete with others to with the race.

I was very depressed one night and went to a fruits store. I bought some oranges. After I paid for them the seller said to me that that orange has a bad mark on it, change it with another one. I changed one with another and he said but that's a smaller one, don't I owe you? He also gave me the one that had marked and said, at least use this one as well. A subtle smile came on my face and I realized my mood changed dramatically. We all need these people.

You can do it, Meone! You can believe in good people!

No, confidence is "I'm too amazing for these mere mortals."

RIP Christina.