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msltoe t1_ja3bjb6 wrote

For work, I write down everything I want to do each day and then check off the things I actually did. Keeping tasks bite-sized, like an hour or less, increases the chance atask can be completed. Finally, when its time for your parents to decide your fate, you can share the notebook, so that even if you didn't reach all of their demands, you can demonstrate you now are at least organized and moving in the right direction.

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itslexibicth OP t1_ja3c7l7 wrote

Holy shit, thank you so much. I’m going to start using this today. Thank you!

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CandyHeartWaste t1_ja3jzfo wrote

I’ve used an idea similar to this. It also lets me get all the clutter I stress about internally onto a paper so I can “free up” that space to not ruminate. Make a checklist of EVERYTHING you need to do, even “Call to make an appointment” because the simple task of checking it off will make you feel like you’re accomplishing things. Good luck!

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itslexibicth OP t1_ja3notv wrote

You guys are so helpful and kind. I actually just went and got a little notebook that can fit in my pocket so I can do this quite literally everywhere I go.

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pollypocketrocket4 t1_ja4yjc1 wrote

Look into the Bullet Journal method on YouTube. Simple and effective task and time management. Good luck to you!!

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CakeForBreakfast08 t1_ja5phjl wrote

Try adding to your notebook in 24 days : talk to mom and dad about my progress.

A follow up check in at the half way showing them you're moving forward might mitigate some of the consequences- release some of the pressure on you.

Even if not, it will be good to show them. :)

Good luck OP. You got this.

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JulesCDC t1_ja5m4gs wrote

It also gives you little dopamine hits to cross stuff off the list, even if it’s small stuff. Just the check mark or cross out has an effect and can be motivating to do the next small thing and then the next.

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Such_is_Mango t1_ja62twe wrote

I can't upvote this enough! Got a brain infection 7 years ago and now half of my skull is 3D printed. I have some short term memory loss amongst other medical issues as a result. After recovering, I immediately started a journal to note everything each day, and it has changed my life.

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michaelkaszynski t1_ja5m6u3 wrote

Going off this, I also use a similar strategy. Every morning, I wake up and I write down everything I want to accomplish for the day. I really hold myself accountable to this also and it worked for me but shit ain’t gonna be easy man. You gotta want it. Once you complete that task, make sure to check it off. By the end of the day when everything is checked off, you’ll feel accomplished! Keep me updated man and let me know if you have any questions!

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After-Life-1101 t1_ja6tlvx wrote

How do you do it? Cause it ain't easy. How do you renew your desire to do it?

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michaelkaszynski t1_ja7b9nz wrote

One thing I also did was I kinda created my own mission statement. Why I wanna do what I wanna do and what’s it gonna benefit me from it. So, I wrote it down in 1-2 sentences and put it everywhere and that’s my motivation for it. I’m constantly reminded of why I’m doing it

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After-Life-1101 t1_jabyesy wrote

Thanks for this. Knowing that someone else did it makes me think that I can do it too. You're my hero.

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michaelkaszynski t1_jac6pyj wrote

Anytime man! Anything is possible you just gotta see what works for you!

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localpunktrash t1_ja8a70m wrote

I write down my to do’s everyday and have a daily checklist that structures my whole day. That way everyday, I’m doing things that take care of me. I still don’t manage it all everyday (mental health, chronic pain, chronic health problems and a toddler 😅) but I am making solid effort everyday and holding myself accountable

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