Shit this is a good one

I feel uncomfortable being called babe

My wife casually said once when I said something wasn’t my finest performance that “by definition, you can only have one finest performance, so don’t beat yourself up for trying.”

Finally, this reddit knows good posts!

It’s really difficult coming up with an original idea to do “first” in this day & age though unfortunately

What about champ?

My husband gets paralyzed by the idea that there is better out there. He won’t read a book because he isn’t sure that it is the most important knowledge. He won’t write because someone else could say it better.

I told him the other day that the most important knowledge is the one you absorb; by waiting for the best you are shutting yourself off from a wealth of information.

And who cares if someone can say it better, that doesn’t detract from what you have said maybe your iteration will help someone understand the “better” ones more completely maybe not, there being someone else who said it doesn’t detract from your voice

I haven’t convinced him so I will 100% be using this to enhance my conversation, because they said it better and that doesn’t detract from my voice it enhances it.

This is actually one of those rare moments where a post in this group is actually right and useful!
Wasn't there a Japanese proverb similar to this?
something along the lines of: "If it wasnt done, do it. If it is done, do it better".

Lovely.

I'm not your champ, buddy.

I'm not your buddy, babe

I'm not your buddy, pal.

This is true for everything. I can't clean my house because omg there's a lot of house to clean and everything needs doing and how can I do it all so I get paralysed and don't do anything. But if I aim to clean the bathroom then yeah the house is still a mess but at least the bathroom is clean, and maybe tomorrow I'll vacuum or something.

First the worst

We did it Reddit!

“Medicore” “best” “worst” are judgements from an individuals perspective. What’s the worst for one, can be the best for another. It just matter what you think.

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The issue I run up against constantly (starting a business) is that I'm trying to do something many people have done and are doing, but I'm not doing it at their level and it seems impossible.

Hitler circa 1930: "Some else could do it better than me."

Eva: "Not relevant babe, no one else is gonna do it."

If no one's done it before, consider that it might not be a good idea.

Uh this wasn’t about sex, this was about an interview lol

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Technically the Wright brothers built the worst FUNCTIONAL airplanes in the world. There were several attempts before them that were clearly airplanes but they just didn’t work.

Not to be a bummer because I agree with the sentiment of this post, but try telling this to all the inventors and business owners who do something completely unique and have their ideas stolen (and popularized) by someone else. History isn’t thanking you for being the first to do something if it’s immediately stolen from you.

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I'm not saying your thing is about sex. And OP wasn't saying his thing was about a conversation between you and your wife about a performance.

The topic is about a concept broader than specifically the Wright Brothers too. Sex is only as irrelevant as the wright brothers, or your non-sex-related performance. This topic encompasses it all, and doesn't prevent us from talking about specifically the Wright Brothers.

Someone can't take a joke. Want a Kleenex, dear?

Marry her.

Edit: I’m stupid and read quick as gf.

So divorce her, then remarry her, apparently.

I mean. When they built it? It was the best airplane. In the world. In all of recorded history.

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Are you okay this wasn't about sex whatsoever.

Jokes don't take 5 paragraphs to try to convey.

This is irrelevant. This wasn't about whether or not I'm okay.

You seem sensitive. What's this really about?

You're partially right in that sometimes jokes can be much shorter

For example, Your mom made a joke with just one word - your name

You roast like a Tumblr addict from 2012, please touch grass like others have already told you.

You could take literally any motivational quote and go "what if Hitler thought this" but that wouldn't make it relevant.

"believe in yourself" gasp But Hitler believed in himself!

Seems I've touched a nerve 😏

I don't think you understand how internet comments work Lmao. Oh well bait is bait

Which is why platitudes are worthless.

Why you mad bro? It's just a game

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Technically, they actually built paragliders, and dummond built the first airplane.

You're right, but i also see where it comes for. Our whole education and society is very harsh towards mistakes. They aren't treated as learning opportunities they are treated as fuck ups and failures. So i can see how that would develop a fear of doing things imperfectly.

You sound like an idiot, do you realize that?

You didn’t really get what he said in that last part lol. The Wright brothers killed a few people themselves to make those planes.

Another reddit page I am on was having a discussion about a quote from GK Chesterton who famously said "if a thing is worth doing, it's worth doing badly." He wasn't defending poor efforts, but he was depending the worthwhile-ness of an activity. Example - reading books to your children is good even if you stammer over words. Making the honest effort to workout even if it wasn't amazing.

> Most aviation historians believe the Wright Brothers met the criteria to be considered the inventors of the first successful airplane before Santos-Dumont because the Wright Flyer was heavier-than-air, manned and powered, able to take off and land under its own power and controllable along three axes

https://www.history.com/news/history-faceoff-who-was-first-in-flight#:~:text=Most%20aviation%20historians%20believe%20the,axes%20in%20order%20to%20avoid

Also you spelled Dumont wrong.

Second is the best

I want to write a book, yet I deeply struggle with ‘I’ve never written anything like this before, is it going to be crap, why would anyone want to read my crap’

I sorta get that it’s just my irrational insecurities yet knowing that isn’t enough to ignore those voices either.

I'm a lot like him, I think. At a certain point I realized that 99% of anyone's potential (including my own) is already gone by the time you're an adult.

A lot of people are multi-talented but how many of us can really be a fighter pilot and a film director and a musician and a chef and know 5 different languages at the same time? And how many less can be the best at any given one of those? Each one is going to take at least some portion of your life to learn let alone master. Can you fit in 50 masteries? 20? Or even just 1? There's always more time to see France, but oh, you have to make sure to fit in India and the Bahamas and Japan and Iceland!

There's too much to do, and every minute you're not doing it is costing you potential. I think once you have that mindset of "time is finite but so is potential" you start to reach out to try and do as much as you still can with the time you still have left. It becomes less about perfection and more about just doing it. So maybe you can't learn 5 languages in a year but if you start now and just do the thing you could maybe learn one. And maybe even learn to cook too before you're done.

For me personally as long as I make some impact on the world before my time is up, I'll consider that enough.

I am glad he wasn't paralyzed there was better out there about one thing. You.

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You can find sources saying it was one or the other, it's a debate overall. My opinion is that what they built is not an airplane. Imo, it changes based on the definition of an airplane, clearly stating it has to be powered or propelled, where the Wrights only took inclines or pushed it themselves, not actually propeling through air, as Dumont did. Thus me saying they built a paraglider, not an airplane.

Yes I did, thanks!

You sound like I fucked your wife, and then when you confronted her, she told you she was leaving you.

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I had a bout of this sensation the other day. I found a much better way to do something that’s important for my craft, but instead of getting excited, I got demotivated. Since, it’s “yet another thing to do”. My friend rightly noted this was some time for some mental hygiene, if an exciting opportunity just felt like a chore.

At the end of the day, we have to dispel any idea that we will be able to “do it all” or “do it perfectly”. I describe this as “the infinity of our universe”.

When I get demotivated as such, I just take a step back and say to myself “this universe has infinite potential, and it is equally valid to see it as opportunity as to see it as burden” and prune out the parts of my attitude where it is feeling as a burden.

Shit. I really needed to hear this today.

Every story has already been written and yet people still continue to write and read, so write without fear and without judgment and someday someone will thank you for it, because for every book there is a reader who will love it no matter how good or bad the book is

Thanks