Submitted by DrMelbourne t3_117ia30 in GetMotivated
More specifically:
Think about the situations where you pulled through adversity.
Did need or want explained your motivation to proceed through adversity? Or was it something else entirely?
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DrMelbourne OP t1_j9bveqe wrote
What kind of paperwork do you have in mind?
your_faithfully t1_j9bx28t wrote
I agree. I was in a shithole of life until December where I got some opportunities (luck) and that motivated me the fuck out to get out of shithole. But now after 2 months I'm altogether in a different hole (my job paused my full time hiring ) and now I'm just sad (proximity ) cause I was dependent on them for my bills and shit man.
user_dan t1_j9c1psf wrote
I was just referring to exploring options outside of immediate friends and family. We live in a society of rules. Sometimes we think the rules are against us and assume there are fewer options than what is available. Maybe asking the boss for a raise. Maybe applying for another job that you thought you were not qualified for. Etc.
That raise may give you some breathing room. That breathing room may change your perspective.
wearethepeopleibrox t1_j9c7yzg wrote
Couldnt disagree more. I made it with none of the above
user_dan t1_j9camcl wrote
You overcame "adversity" with no people, no rule support, no drawing on past experience and no luck.
"adversity" is external. We don't choose what adversity brings or when adversity shows up. If you don't have a repeatable process to address it, adversity will roll over you.
wearethepeopleibrox t1_j9caq0b wrote
If you let it perhaps
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Appert87 t1_j9fgbt7 wrote
I think its true. In poorer countries you need to do something or you starve, why else would you sell ice cream in the streets in the 35-40 degree sun at daytime?
In richer countries people are motivated more by want I suppose, a lot of need is already covered by government and society to some minimum degree.
Glowshroom t1_j9gd9dk wrote
Are there any other options?
"Research claims that coins have two sides - heads and tails. What are your thoughts on this?"
ShakeWeightMyDick t1_j9goew2 wrote
Well, if you don’t need to do something and don’t want to do it, why would you do it? What possible motivation is there for something you neither need nor want to do?
user_dan t1_j9btnrm wrote
With respect to "adversity", it is neither. Proximity and luck play bigger roles.
Proximity refers to the people, paperwork and experiences you have immediately available to you. Luck is just luck. The level of confidence you have in the pieces available motivates you to push forward. That is the reality for the average person.
Many "motivation" stories are mixtures of proximity and (lots) of luck. These stories then get retconned as some heroic, self-driving motivational epic. For some people, the recon can be very intimidating and even demotivating.