I’m younger than OP so I don’t know what you’re referring to. No one said you can’t be succesfull while living with your parents. I had to when I became ill. OP specifically asked in his title how to fix your life while unemployed and living with family? After reading the title this was my initial anwser and after reading the post it stayed the same. There is no reason why OP can’t get a job and move out of his parents house. Is it going to be a great career where he feels super valued with grand pay where he can afford himself a beautifull home, no probably not. OP needs to wake up and realise this is a reality for most people and he isn’t special. He got handed pretty good cards in life to make it, but he didn’t, that’s ok, shit happens. But he is still young and he can still do well for himself if he puts his mind and energy to it. But he’s gotta do it himself. I’m not going to feel sorry for him, as I know many people who didn’t get the same opportunities and still made the best of it, as well as people still working jobs while being physically ill, including myself. My family doesn’t hate me and OP’s family clearly doesn’t either so I don’t know what that comment is about.

Not allowing your unemployed thirty year old who refuses to keep a job live in your house and eat your food while he plays video games 8+ hours a day is NOT "hating your kids".

For fuck's sake man, no.

The worst thing OP's parents can be blamed for is allowing him to live in thier home doing nothing since he was a teenager. It's unacceptable and allowing it isn't love- ITS ENABLING.

My mum did the same shit for my brother until he was 49.... When he dropped dead from untreated high blood pressure because even though she held his hands, paid all his bills and wiped his ass on a daily basis- she couldn't actually "take care of him" because he was a god damn adult who needed to get his shit together.... And now he's dead.

Yeah, my husband still lived with his folks at 28 when we got together- because between his 70k a year career, and his hobbies doing tech for local theatres- he was almost never home and it didn't seem smart to waste his money on an apartment. But he also helped his parents pay the bills from age 18- he wasn't living there rent-free doing jack shit. And he is unbelievably skilled - he's not only a freaking programmer, an electrical engineer, and is extremely talented in all trades - he could easily be an electrician, a mechanic - so yeah, living at home didn't make him a loser.... But re-read OP's post.

Are you really trying to say that this guy doesn't have MAJOR unaddressed issues?

Outside the west it is far harder to move out to the point average people are unable to do it, whereas in the west the average person can accomplish it.

This is why there is more stigma in the west and than elsewhere.