I love this comment, alot of the other ones were unnecessarily harsh, maybe that guy needs to hear it that hardness, but I digress. I do have a question, because this does seem like the obvious answer, but so many people including me don't ever take it .. why do you think that is?

I would assume bad parenting, mental or physical disabilities, serves trauma in early upbringing etc. All play a part in someone's downfall/bad decision making but I also agree that something else is at play. It's complacency. And to some degree that's on the parents still, right? If my mom forced me to get a job, go back to school or I'm going homeless... Guess I'm getting my life together, most people I know had that forced upon them at some point during 14-21. Anyone in my shoes or the OP's just didn't.. The "free range" style of parenting creates people like me that are literally wired to respond to the world in a very specific way I'm not so sure can be unlearned without intensive therapy and years of systematic planning.... A single individual trying to fix their life is doomed to some degree in this scenario. At this point, parents gotta die, I gotta get cancer, or some insane life event has to take place for change to happen, which sucks but hopefully the reality check isn't that bad, but hey that's life, it sucks and then we die 😂