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HotWheelsUpMyAss OP t1_j8ninct wrote

Reply to comment by shellofbiomatter in [Discussion] Getting swole by cultivating muscle mass & self-empathy by HotWheelsUpMyAss

I didn't mean it in the literal sense. Having a representation of yourself in the past is a good way to measure your progress as you become the person you want to be

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shellofbiomatter t1_j8nkfi0 wrote

Though i still should have taken measurements and a picture to compare. Growing muscles is just too slow process for me to notice the change, but there is no end goal.

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HotWheelsUpMyAss OP t1_j8nmodl wrote

Maybe there doesn't need to be an end goal, just the sense of fulfilment that you are progressing from who you were before

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shellofbiomatter t1_j8nr11w wrote

But can there be fulfillment if one does not notice the progress, not that there isn't any.

But how does fulfillment work or how can it be recognized?
Is it innate thing and comes automatically? Does it have to be nourished? Or is it fake it til you make it thing?

Not that I'm questioning the original motivational quote. I just tend to question the human condition to get a better understanding.

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HotWheelsUpMyAss OP t1_j8nt6sl wrote

Any inch of progress you make is a step away from your former self, even if it's minute. Take notice in anything that you consider to be positive progress and make it re-affirming—and setbacks are things that are temporary and you can bounce back from.

It's also not a fake it till you make it if you are constantly making it—and there really isn't an ultimate stage or end goal, because that would imply that you can lose it after achieving it (if that makes any sense).

I guess to answer your question, it is not automatic but a conscious decision you make that needs to be nurtured.

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shellofbiomatter t1_j8numkl wrote

Thank you.
One last clarifying question if you don't mind.

So "fulfillment" isn't an emotion, but more like state of mind that must be cultivated and maintained to produce positive emotions?

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HotWheelsUpMyAss OP t1_j8nw2bo wrote

I'm not sure, and this one is a bit hard for me as I am trying to figure it out. Perhaps it is the journey of growth that is the fulfilment—both positive and negative emotions may be involved, but they are not the all-encompassing thing. Maybe this is what they mean when say it's not about the destination but the journey.

You could probably apply this to life too, and not worrying about your own inevitable death—but rather what happens between

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shellofbiomatter t1_j8nzeu0 wrote

That's actually rather good take. Thank you, for your help and explanation.

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Negative_Emu7228 t1_j8opmk9 wrote

I have found that other people will notice WAYYY before you do. Especially if you see someone you haven't seen in a while.

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