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lkayman30 t1_j8evw29 wrote

I have the exact same issue. Severe childhood trauma. People think I'm doing well because I have a good job and home but in reality, I'm like you.

At work I can crush my goals but, at home I'm a month behind on laundry. I had to get a weekly house keeper to clean my house because I don't have the motivation to do but, I can't stand filth. It's so ridiculous to me but, honestly I don't know how to change it.

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Prize_Huckleberry_79 t1_j8h1ney wrote

I think that at work, you run out of whatever it is you run out of, that you would ordinarily rely upon to get your housework done or your chores. I won’t call it “energy” because I still have that at times. I wouldn’t say it’s “motivation” either.

I think it’s some sort of actual chemical in your brain or something that gets depleted through the course of your day. Maybe a scientist around here can tell us if I’m right, and what that chemical may be…

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crazylifestories t1_j8h7opk wrote

That is exactly how I fell. I can do work, I can clean my house, or I can play with my daughter. I can’t do any on the three at the same time. My energy is just depleted after 1.

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AintNothinButaDream t1_j8tkm6b wrote

I'm older (62 m) and have been dealing with this since I was a teen, its brutal and gotten worse the older I got. I used to be able to do things by forcing myself, sheer determination. The older I got, the harder that got.

I'm at the point now where I can do like one thing a day, and I'm done. Being a parent while constantly exhausted was the worst.

So interesting to read all these comments and suggestions, gives me hope that perhaps I can be a bit more productive and less negative at the same time.

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dulcamaraa t1_j8u0wdv wrote

Mayb you mean dopamine? Which is needed to start/continue/finish tasks and is deficient in people having ADHD.

Or more generally, maybe you’re talking about willpower. There are a lot of studies done on diminishing willpower over the day (eg in judges, that need to make tough decisions their whole day, or people on diets that have better food choices in the morning vs the evening)

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Prize_Huckleberry_79 t1_j8vv4vr wrote

Yea I bet you’re right. “Willpower” is interesting. I need to research that some more…

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ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hb6xs wrote

I'm so sorry, it feels awful, doesn't it? Especially that bit where everyone thinks you're functioning really well, but you know you're not.

I'm glad you have found a way to cope in the meantime, but wishing you peace.

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lkayman30 t1_j9tyvx9 wrote

Thank you so much. I wish Peace and happiness as well.

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