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Archereus t1_j7w9j4a wrote

Why did they hide onions in this post.

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Erisian23 t1_j7wkxdo wrote

Onion cutting Ninja's in monochrome pink.

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lucky_ducker t1_j7wrq3b wrote

Thank you for this. Never underestimate the power of encouraging a child.

I'm an old dude with a lot of life experience, and I am continually struck by the oftentimes extreme competence of children who are given good instruction, encouragement, and support.

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F0X_ t1_j7x2yc4 wrote

Was reading this between sets of squats at the gym and now I'm crying, fuck.

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fatamSC2 t1_j7x6451 wrote

Probably fake, but cute story for sure

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Wartstench t1_j7x6dy0 wrote

Replying to Great_Inflation_6892 (#1,766,696)

You gotta get upvotes on comments you make to other people’s posts, but you can also get downvoted, so don’t be mean. Once you have enough “karma”/upvotes, you will be allowed to post. It’s called karma because good or bad votes come back to you depending on how much people like or dislike what you say. Happy karma hunting!

Edit: I’m not sure how much good karma you need to be able to post. Maybe someone else can answer that for you.

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Jainelle t1_j7xbk0i wrote

Sometimes it's the little things that mean the most.

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[deleted] t1_j7xg72p wrote

This is so beautiful. You never know how much of an impact kind words and deeds have on someone!!

Growing up my little cousin loved to sing, so we got her a karaoke machine and every time we’d hangout we would do karaoke. She grew up to be an incredible singer who has had quite a bit of success. It’s always been source of joy to hear her sing at family events remembering when we were kids.

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Geo224 t1_j7xgyzy wrote

Its a damned shame so many children are raised in homes where its corporal punishment and rigid domineering and weaponized verbal attacks. The power of building is so much more effective...but it also requires more effort and REAL involvement and commitment

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tkp14 t1_j7xh0ej wrote

I have a step-granddaughter who is a very, very troubled kid. Just a laundry list of problems and my heart aches for her. My daughter (her step-mom) and I talk often about ways to help her. She’s a terrific artist and we tell her that but this gives me ideas about doing more. Thanks!

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atlgrip67 t1_j7xkjjh wrote

You never know the impact you have on people, both good and bad. Great story!

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JazzlikeInitiative25 t1_j7xr9x9 wrote

This kind of support at a young age is critical for children who want to go into the arts. Way to be that person, OP!!

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JumpAndTurn t1_j7xun5g wrote

Ya, this made me cry🥹💚 Poignancy always wins👏

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YahYahY t1_j7xwwt5 wrote

That kid’s name? Albert Einstein.

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Wartstench t1_j7xys1f wrote

Replying to Great_Inflation_6892 (#1,768,791)

Yeah, sorry. I was kinda hoping someone else would jump in but maybe it’s not to be lol. Good luck out there!

Edit: Ok, well the r/BeAmazed subreddit doesn’t require you to have any karma to post on, it appears, so I guess it depends on the sub. Also:

https://preview.redd.it/adlzdrkaihha1.png?width=1125&format=png&auto=webp&v=enabled&s=7214335da8b28c09f41c02805eb9d1c218e5def7

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rosewalker42 t1_j7y3oh3 wrote

This is how my BFF (an artist) talks to my daughter (also an artist, currently 8 years old). Every time I see this I think of them and I fucking love it.

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ambidextriousowl t1_j7y96h2 wrote

I hate kids, but I will never be mean to them no matter how annoying they are because as a kid, I knew what it was like to have adults be straight up mean and I don’t want to be that person for someone else.

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HaysteRetreat t1_j7yex1z wrote

Replying to lucky_ducker (#1,766,444)

I wonder if it's just encouragement or this engaging with specificity as encouragement so a child can build an association between what they did with positive interactions . "When I draw it makes the babysitter happy and they play with me in a fun voice".
As opposed to "when I draw I am praised and called talented".

Basically focusing on how the child makes people feel instead of just how good or skilled the child is.... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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bogeuh t1_j7yh4ql wrote

Replying to HaysteRetreat (#1,769,448)

Not everyhting has the same effect on every person. Some need external motivation, for some it only works when it comes from within. Not only for praise and encouragement. Some kids rebel with strict upbringing, some become obedient followers. My personal choice is to add onto what the kids do. Broaden their horizon or the box they think in.

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Trips-Over-Tail t1_j7yicbn wrote

That's some advanced improv for a twelve-year-old babysitter.

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[deleted] t1_j7yu8d7 wrote

Make me want to cry without telling me you make me want to cry

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Gary_Vigoda t1_j7yybr9 wrote

I went to a Catholic high school first year of high school and it sucked. I'm not religious and was an edgy kid into punk and metal during the height of the Satanic Panic in the 80s. All my teachers hated me except for my art teacher who was also the religion teacher. I'd draw zombies and demons and monsters and she'd always give me great marks.

The next year I went to a public school. My art teacher was this gay dude who was a total dick because I wasn't good at following directions and doing his style. He got me kicked out.

I got sent to another religious school and the art teacher was this cool old hippy dude that would let you do your own thing but give you tips on how to do it.

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MerryFeathers t1_j7yzhgw wrote

Wish you had included that picture for us. Love what you did for her, the announcer’s voice and all that. Something she understood even though it wasn’t a sports event.. very clever and so very positive. ❤️

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a_little_toaster t1_j7z897g wrote

"Thank you," it said,

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How to tell this is an author roleplaying instead of a real story

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1SageK1 t1_j7z96rq wrote

One time my first grade teacher told me I could be first in class( I came second or third but I didn't really care about studying then). She is a religious Muslim and a very pious lady, she had this beautiful aura. From then on I became so interested in studies that I came first in all divisions of my grade. I eventually became a doctor and I owe a major part of my success to this angel. I am 35 now, we still keep in touch.

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UVSky t1_j7z9kzv wrote

Was told how smart and talented I was all the time — while in the same breathe being told I wasn’t living up to it. I was frequently told by adults in my life to stop wasting my time on whatever kind of art I was doing, that I was wasting my talents and should be drawing/doing insert whatever they value art instead.

The damage that did to my confidence, sense of self, and the amount of anxiety i have over my every move now has significantly effected my ability to thrive and be happy even into my mid 30s. It’s ironic how the adults in my life’s obsession with me “meeting my potential” cause the opposite to happen, they crushed it instead.

We should just support kids in what they are doing and personal growth and stop holding them to our own personal standards. Thanks for making this kid feel accepted and seen. It was clearly very meaningful to them to have your support.

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CloudCitiesonVenus t1_j7za1xm wrote

twist: the baby was a time traveler from the future, humanely preventing the next Hitler

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ThermalFlask t1_j7za4qt wrote

Replying to Geo224 (#1,767,875)

I often wonder how differently my life had gone if I didn't have to experience that crap as a child. Beatings, being sworn at, threats of disowning or even death if they're really angry, that stays with you for life

Gives me a LOT of appreciation for good supportive parents

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laber1 t1_j7zep1s wrote

Great job and thanks for sharing.

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ihadtologinforthis t1_j7zj8oa wrote

Replying to HaysteRetreat (#1,769,448)

I mean it could be both she is happy and was also glad her babysitter could find the same happiness in her art.

Encouragement and praise isn't always going to work if the kid just isn't interested. Maybe they'll keep going if it makes their parents happy but they won't be. Definitely didn't work on me lol I liked the activity but not enough to want to keep doing it just cause my parent liked it.

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Katmandu10 t1_j7zk5za wrote

This moved me to tears. The beauty of it, the rarity of it.

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Ouch-MyBack t1_j7zr5t1 wrote

Replying to Geo224 (#1,767,875)

I am a good mom, I really am. My daughter is very bright, honour roll most of the time. Her grades started slipping a bit and I had to admit it was as much my fault as hers. I had just 'let her go', thought she'd be fine. Well surprise to me, she thrives on encouragement and needs guidance. They need you. Kids need you.

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jeffreysw t1_j7zwecd wrote

As a Jeff, I'd like to point out that we did a good.

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Saint_Ursula t1_j7zx1n9 wrote

This gave me all the feels. As an Educator it's easy to get caught up in the bureaucracy but these are the moments we live for.

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platon20 t1_j800pag wrote

I think as kids all of us are looking for someone who believes in us before we believed in ourselves.

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NiteGlo77 t1_j804f28 wrote

every day i think about how different the world would be if everyone had decent parents and positive encouragement

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mriu22 t1_j806ame wrote

Fuck yeah. Dream builder right there. Good on you man.

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FadedRxses t1_j806bp9 wrote

This shit got my crying in the club rn

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MrTyranius t1_j80amlp wrote

Made me tear up from the wholesomeness. Thanks for sharing and for being that supportive person in her life.

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Level_Variation8032 t1_j80aq9m wrote

I love this!!! Good for both of you that you were such a great babysitter!!!

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morostheSophist t1_j80iq4k wrote

Replying to HaysteRetreat (#1,769,448)

I'd say it's both. The kid clearly enjoyed the fun voice, but understood the commentary as play (i.e. not real). That's why she'd ask at the end of the night, "did you really like it?" Then she got direct, explicit positive reinforcement.

And those direct comments were probably taken to heart. Kid probably used those to focus more on specific parts of her work. Little kids can be surprisingly perceptive long before they develop adult intellect, focus, and sensibilities.

I would definitely say this was an "it's both" situation.

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morostheSophist t1_j80jajj wrote

Replying to Trips-Over-Tail (#1,769,561)

One of my sister's friends used to do off-the-cuff "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous" bits starting at like age seven. She wasn't super creative with it at first, but did a pretty passable imitation of Robin Leach's accent.

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morostheSophist t1_j80k87w wrote

Replying to ambidextriousowl (#1,769,229)

I never liked kids, and never wanted to have any, but I have nieces and nephews, and they're the most amazing things. I love spending time with them. They look up to me way more than I deserve, and being around them makes me a better person.

Still never want to have my own kids, though--they're freaking exhausting.

Good on you for making sure you model good behavior for kids. Being mean is a terrible influence. They have their entire lives to learn about cruelty; I don't want any of it to come from me. Sounds like you've made a similar decision.

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Geo224 t1_j81uf1j wrote

Replying to ThermalFlask (#1,770,586)

Absolutely. I wonder the same. After having kids of my own and making my own mistakes...I can say that at the very least...nothing I ever did to my kids could be construed as depraved predatory psychological torture, premeditated aggravated assault with a weapon.

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