Submitted by Fast_Ad7959 t3_10t1r1i in GetMotivated
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AdonisGaming93 t1_j7501f8 wrote
The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
AdonisGaming93 t1_j7507e4 wrote
The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
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exploringkendra t1_j752pb1 wrote
This warmed my heart
inmyelement t1_j75ib64 wrote
Nice quote until I saw the snake 💀
inmyelement t1_j75id0x wrote
You are winning, my dear…
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fingernail_police t1_j75px1d wrote
My snek has a mouse inside him now. I guess that's good.
soup_gorl t1_j75ret0 wrote
That type of goodness is usually actually transactional on the part of the “empath”. This happens when empathy and codependency get confused.
haku_81 t1_j75sczs wrote
Unless you're afraid of snakes.
Snakes are way stronger than you.
They're vulnerable to spears though, so always carry a spear.
MartieRizer t1_j75vr9n wrote
I came here to say that this quote is a perfect fit for r/abusiverelationships
WastelandThief t1_j75w0im wrote
Thank you kind snek
lilpeachbrat t1_j760jq2 wrote
The artist is Elena Fiorenza.
Naughtyslay17 t1_j763j45 wrote
The goodness in people makes them get taken advantage of. I am a very nice person. I always put others before myself at times. But at the end of then day I get walked all over and treated with disrespect by my friends and family.
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Warriordan44 t1_j76a1ml wrote
No it's not..
PenelopeAliWatson t1_j76aigr wrote
Had this exact conversation less than 24 hours ago with my therapist.
MACMAN2003 t1_j76n13k wrote
what goodness? all i see is hatred and EVIL!!! >:)
345stayinalive t1_j76n3xe wrote
Artist please <3333
Fast_Ad7959 OP t1_j76n7cn wrote
AtomicCortex t1_j76njd7 wrote
Nice to know good manners will save me when I am cornered by a school shooter.
345stayinalive t1_j76o2ve wrote
She's talking about an internal strength, not you against the bullies, but the strength inside you made of originalness and love.
AdonisGaming93 t1_j770clx wrote
Well I have been abused before lol
3nails4holes t1_j7777ao wrote
Fear…? Like maybe having your heart constricted by a snake? That kind of fear?
labria86 t1_j779o0l wrote
Your mentality needs to change. You wouldn't be an asshole to not care about people who aren't worth caring about. If someone abuses you have every right to cut off feeling empathy for that person. Easier said than done but when you cut off a person completely time makes it easier to not care. Find people who are worthy of your empathy instead of wasting on those who don't.
MartieRizer t1_j77gjji wrote
Me too, I understand and I’m sorry for you.
AdonisGaming93 t1_j77ilz8 wrote
The people that have never been toxic to me I can count on 1 hand. It is what it is. But those are the real friends.
AdonisGaming93 t1_j77jk61 wrote
Well that's a separate issue same as "nice guy" syndrome where people are nice only because they want something not because they genuinely care.
I'm talking about those who are always up for helping others and end up having people pile on their toxicity on us, and we kinda just keep helping cause thats what we do. To the point where you end up getting abused and used and you don't know how to stand up for yourself and cut people off because it makes you feel like a bad person.
I can't speak for everyone but in my case I've had people abuse the fact that I'm always there for others and want to help any way I can. It's lead to some friendships turning into them using me for their own issues, and romantic relationships into me being abused and cheated on etc.
What you are describing is also an issue, but idk if that's what I'm talking about. I mean more people who are actually too nice and caring that they want to help the world and don't realize that one person can't, and don't know how to protect themselves when others take advantage.
soup_gorl t1_j77k6y8 wrote
I hear you. Being a good person involves lots of healthy boundaries. Otherwise there is an inevitable burnout. Boundaries with love is so important. No one can always be there for others, nor should they be even if they could. Sometimes people have to learn stuff the hard way even if we want to help. Caring and compassion can become codependency very quickly if it doesn’t stay within healthy lines. It’s our own responsibility to make sure we protect ourselves from overextension.
marxhitchenssocrates t1_j77pctb wrote
I feel that. I try to practice healthy selfishness and realistic skepticism of others while implementing my idealism in order to protect myself and not feel resentful towards myself and others.
Conquerors_Quill t1_j78mdz5 wrote
Yeah, but I fear Shaggy.
StillSundayDrunk t1_j78uc9y wrote
Well I fear a snake eating my heart so now I'm terrified. Which I guess just made me a better person so I've got that going for me.
Smithy2232 t1_j74sflm wrote
Love this!