I hear you. Being a good person involves lots of healthy boundaries. Otherwise there is an inevitable burnout. Boundaries with love is so important. No one can always be there for others, nor should they be even if they could. Sometimes people have to learn stuff the hard way even if we want to help. Caring and compassion can become codependency very quickly if it doesn’t stay within healthy lines. It’s our own responsibility to make sure we protect ourselves from overextension.