Submitted by filthyaverage t3_10qnrm3 in GetMotivated

It kinda sucks. A blow to my ego. One of two people that just got kicked off. Though it seems I fail to care much besides it affecting my already-crippling reputation, after leading someone who was infatuated with me on(a classmate). I care less that I wasn't able to keep my position not appearing in much of the council meetings being held, being late to class basically every day, more that I've got my status taken from me and now I'm just another "somebody" how I used to be and how the shame is piling up. Is this karma biting my ass for the horrible shit I've done? I hope it ends soon. I keep repeating a cycle of regret and self-pity over and over. How may I go with breaking it and moving on/improvement.. I've not a clue.

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Modern_Devil t1_j6s9jwh wrote

No one cares about who is student council. You didn’t even care that much or you wouldn’t have been skipping meetings.

Set your sights higher. You have better things to do than feel sorry for yourself. Ignore the petty shit and keep up good work!

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Jealous_Actuary_391 t1_j74emij wrote

Care more about your work ethic and being responsible to your community. Become a team player and change your heart to do things for the right reasons, not just yourself and your ego. Unless you do it your ego is going to keep running the show and being beat up constantly. Ego success is always brief and right before you fall on your face again. Working for what you care about and doing what’s right means you succeed even when you fail because you know doing your best for the right reasons WAS the goal, not technical success. The path you’re on is the path of ultimate pain and hell. For you and for anyone who comes into contact with you.

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Smallios t1_j757rk8 wrote

I’m more worried that you are late for class every day, and missing meetings. What’s going on buddy?

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Klangenm t1_j6r4k3z wrote

Sounds like you place your self worth in the hands of other people "I've had my status taken from me and now I am just another somebody". You value yourself in comparison to the status of your peers. This is a tricky place to be as you cannot control other people, and if your personal value is placed in the hands of other people you will never be in control of how you perceive yourself.

I don't like giving advice, but... it seems to me you need to take some time for yourself. Think long and carefully about what brings you joy/happiness/fulfillment. Think about those things with the intention of determining if those are things you control or others control. Focus on the aspects of your life that bring fulfillment that YOU CAN CONTROL. Once you find out what you can control and brings value to your life you can grow from there.

You can still be a leader, you can still be a boss, but you need to do it on your terms for reasons that bring you value.

I hope that makes sense. But if you want a simplified version just go to youtube and look up some sprite commercials from the 90s. "Image is nothing, Thirst is everything"

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