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NewDad907 t1_j6ad7w4 wrote

Getting someone to understand that they “choose” to allow others to upset then is incredibly difficult.

Most people do not understand that they can choose their reactions. They fully believe in the “you MADE ME FEEL…”

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SamGewissies t1_j6cfwof wrote

It's a hard balance though. Feeling something initially is good, blocking that feeling alltogether can be detrimental. However, after that initial feeling it is up to the individual what to do with it.

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L_knight316 t1_j6dqat0 wrote

Stoicism isn't about blocking feelings, it's about being consciously aware of what you're feeling, why you're feeling it, and reacting to it in the way that fits your ideals and morals rather than acting on impulse

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SamGewissies t1_j6dsar4 wrote

I don’t know a lot about stoicism, so I did not intend this to be a critique on it. Merely a response to the previous commenter. It sounds like stoicism aligned with my views if you put it it like that.

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braveabandon t1_j6cirl7 wrote

In my experience those people that believe that have a lot more problams than just that

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849 t1_j6d0zqw wrote

Action-reaction vs action-cognition-reaction

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