Clownhooker t1_j46e2sr wrote on January 13, 2023 at 2:13 PM

I just had a friend of 25years drop me like a bug-filled-taco. I adopted a puppy and she felt the need to pull every problem I’ve ever had with a dog into an argument why I shouldn’t have this dog I told here “the dog is staying” and she grumbled off. When I followed up the next day on how any why that hurt me and if she was doing that in other relationships it was toxic. She replied back with “do not contact me again” she removed me from all socials and the streaming services we were sharing.

This is someone I considered my sister. That does not allow her to treat me like that. I deserve respect and love and the ability to change. My friends should also be able to take criticism when it come from the heart. You hurt me, should be followed up with an apology not doubled down on.

Will I have a whole where she used to be? For a while but soon it will turn into a stained glass memory of what a good friend she WAS. It okay to let people go.

LiveMammoth7055 t1_j46gu15 wrote on January 13, 2023 at 2:32 PM

Wow, I think you are better off learning this now instead of later. Why would a friend argue with you about a pet choice? Why would a friend think so lowly of you they would be offended you have an opinion unlike their own?

Clownhooker t1_j46jiy6 wrote on January 13, 2023 at 2:51 PM

It was pretty shocking to be honest. Her mother is somewhat of an animal hoarder, and my friend volunteers at pet shelters all the time. She can be a little high-and -mighty when it comes to animal care. I UNDERSTAND where the comments were coming from but it still doesn’t make it right. It was as if a “mommy expert” came and told me that I wasn’t worthy of having this child. (Painful) So even if she were to come back I wouldn’t be willing to continue the friendship.