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Ganjii_303 t1_j45cuwr wrote

The thing that gets me is this. I had a friend from work who just stopped talking to me. Wont return any texts, but yet he keeps me as friends on Facebook. Why? If you don't want to talk to me, then just delete me, and move on. Why ignore someone but then keep them as a friend on social media?

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AngelicDevilz t1_j45ghws wrote

If I think someone's cool I'll sometimes not know what to reply that won't make me seem to stuck up, too insecire, that I want to be friends more than they do, that I am bored by them and that makes me come across as someone they wanna be friends with too.

So after type and erasing different messages over and over I'll give up for the day, get new messages and forget I never sent anything

If it's opposite sex then it could be jealous bf/gf who throws a fit when they see them messaging you, they have a big argument and promise not to talk to you anymore but they never tell you because they are ashamed of their bf/gf behavior l.

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Lingonberry_Physical t1_j45goh0 wrote

It sucks but I think you're better off deleting them. It's hard to move on the offensive in that regard, but the residual relief is worth it 100%

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Ganjii_303 t1_j45ih4h wrote

I agree. I'm married and old enough that I don't have time for that type of childish behavior.

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TreeB7 OP t1_j45eo3l wrote

Do not remove them, keep them but do not like or watch any of their posts or stories, always remember that when people distance themselves from you, it is not your fault, it is their insecurities and their problems, just move on, sometimes people come to our lives for us to help them with something and once our job is done they just move away, be happy they left because their place in your life was only temporary, only the real ones stay and the fake ones tend to leave.

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Ganjii_303 t1_j45i2jf wrote

But why? I want to remove them. When I was younger I accepted everyone and anyone. Now that I'm older, I only keep friends on social media that I actually talk too. So why keep them around?

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TreeB7 OP t1_j45n29a wrote

It is really a personal choice, for me I like to keep them to show them that even tho they are not part of my life anymore, I am happy, satisfied and going forward with or without them, you might think that they do notice that but they do, people feel it when you detach and move on.

I forgot the most important thing, you need to forgive them for doing that, once you do you will feel much better and the emotional exhaustion that they put you through will go away for good.

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hundredthlion t1_j466i2k wrote

Then go ahead and remove them and stop worrying so much about why they wouldn’t remove you. Seems pretty ridiculous to sit around deciding how other people should run their own accounts. Just do what you want with your own and move on.

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Valuable-Switch-1159 t1_j46onc6 wrote

Seconding this. You are totally free to cut off people who are no longer a part of your life. That’s actually needed to make space for the new people that will come into your life.

Wish them well, then move forward.

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