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HaysteRetreat t1_j435lxs wrote

Maybe this just isnt for me but as someone who struggles in a feedback loop between low self-esteem and maladaptive perfectionism I already beat the crap out of myself for not being better. Someone else telling me to expect even more from myself is the last thing I need.

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Anrikay t1_j440l2m wrote

Expecting more from yourself can also mean working to be more kind to yourself, loving yourself more, and working on achieving better mental health. Or looking for greater self satisfaction rather than external validation.

That's something I struggle with as well, but I'm trying really hard to hold myself to a higher standard of self-empathy and self-respect.

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pineappleshnapps t1_j44zysy wrote

Same! While also remembering that i can’t focus too much on me, and not enough about the people around me. I’d worked myself into a bad spiral of not giving myself any credit or slack, and it led to some real rough times

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NearbyDark3737 t1_j47t1w3 wrote

No, I completely agree. I saw op and I immediately didn’t feel good about it

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