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[deleted] t1_j375nm9 wrote

Why do you have to “earn” the best days of your life?

This sounds like more of the nice sounding but quite toxic nonsense that helps people to take comfort in their current suffering but do nothing to change it.

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DerelictMyOwnBalls t1_j3acr0x wrote

My thoughts, too. I’m sorry tired of the idea that we have to earn peace/a living/etc as if we’re born completely undeserving of these things.

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ChairForceOnes t1_j37tvav wrote

You don't have to earn them, but you won't know they're the best days of your life without having the bad days to compare them to.

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Burgling_Hobbit_ t1_j37xrxh wrote

..... best is best. You don't have to have an F in a class assignment to know your best grade on an assignment was the 100. It doesn't matter if all your other grades were 99. The 100 is still your best and will feel damn good.

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ChairForceOnes t1_j381ub1 wrote

If you get 99s on everything you have nothing to compare. There's neither a bad grade nor a best grade.

Once you get a 100 you now have a best grade and worst grade (or bad grades in comparison to the best grade).

Maybe I'm misunderstanding though.

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Burgling_Hobbit_ t1_j388grf wrote

I can agree that bad grades, or bad days, are not necessary.

You don't need to have something be bad to know when you experience the best.

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Giggle_Buttons t1_j389nzz wrote

I second this. I know from personal experience. Those bad days really do make you appreciate even some of the most uneventful and melancholy of days.

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37ausr wrote

Because nothing just materializes out of thin air

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[deleted] t1_j37en74 wrote

You think that good days don’t just “materialise” out of thin air but all the bad days that you have to apparently fight your way through do?

Edited to stay on point

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37fj0v wrote

Yes. There are a decent many externalities required to have a good day, and none to have a bad one.

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[deleted] t1_j37fniy wrote

I totally disagree. Again, I would ask why you think that?

So your default state is a bad day unless some number of external events come together to produce a good day for you?

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37g2sb wrote

Take just the absolute basics of food and shelter. Hard to have a good day when you are starving and homeless. You have to do things to avoid being starving and homeless, and taking no action whatsoever will lead to both. All of the prerequisites of somebody having a good day require action being taken. No action has to be taken to have a bad day.

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[deleted] t1_j37nl6x wrote

Without finding one absolute extreme. My point is that happiness is an internal state, separate your external circumstances. Your mood is a choice.

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