I wish that has been true

I don’t even unnecessary people in my life 💀

Oh coincidence has been too familiar this year smh

Me being the unnecessary npc in other people's lives: I feel personally attacked!

Sorry kids, pack your bags

Free housing! Free food! Life sentence!

Wait no, I'm not so sure now...

I think its assuming you're looking out for numero uno in other ways other than just cutting people off.

So you’re telling me to “get rid of them” right? I’m hearing you correctly, yes? I better not get into trouble

My favorite quote on this:

You can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.

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Hitler tried this

Also quit drinking, got in therapy etc... Still all been bad

Damn straight

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Also make sure you aren’t the problem first lol

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It's a bit more nuanced than that.

If we remove people before trying to meet them in the middle, sometimes you run into the problem of creating groups of social rejects. And we know historically that's always led to bad things; groups of people rejected for the same reason gaining socially extremist views, harming themselves or others, or living in isolation forever.

If we as a society start doing this, we're also going to have to try hard to pull others up, or nothing. We can't act like we're above the people we've been encouraged to reject as of late.

Our habit of pushing """unnecessary""" people away is a logical and ethical absurdity if we also say we want to create a society that does the best things for the most people. It just wants the feeling of doing the right thing without actually having to do it.

Oh, for sure. Pithy phrases only get you so far. But in a broad, hand-wavy sense, I use this analysis:

"Does this person enrich my life, and do I enrich theirs?"

Enrichment could be alternative view points, or activities together, or being able to help someone who values the help. But even that basic test, earlier in my life, brought me to the startling realization that my social circle just WASN'T. I wasn't growing, and I was frequently uncomfortable with the status of my relationships, romantic or friendly. Finding people who made me better, and who (hopefully) I make better drastically changed my quality of life for the better. Most of my family didn't make the cut, and my life is SUBSTANTIALLY better without them. The family that is still around is valued that much more.

So ghosting, shunning, and cancelling are positive behaviors for self improvement?

Same here!

Keep trying, and keep trying new things. It’s a long road, but if you stick with it, you’ll find people and things who make it better.

I came here to say I don’t think unnecessary is the right word. First of all, no one is ABSOLUTEY necessary other than yourself, and second of all we shouldn’t be judging people based off of whether or not they’re necessary. But by all means, kick the shitty ones to the curb.

You can try hide and delete everything from your device and memory, but you will never erase the pain you've caused others by vanishing without saying a reason.