Well, my son was in the hospital for a month and almost died 3 times. I thought I was an OK dad until he woke up and punched me in the face and yelled, why are you not angry!". At that moment, I realized how my son saw me and changed myself at 45 years old. Probably the 3rd major change I made in my life and all have been for the better. Everyone can change if they really try.