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SgtDoughnut t1_ixz4lm1 wrote

Some of these things you can't just do.

Surround yourself with successful people is a lot harder than just saying it.

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vingeran t1_ixzccew wrote

One can surround yourself with imaginary successful people. Recite their mantras and get better at things.

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SayeretJoe t1_ixzfh43 wrote

That would be the podcasts and books category, right?

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dedicated-pedestrian t1_ixzibws wrote

Bingo. You don't have to know these people to surround yourself with their thoughts and absorb a bit of how they think.

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SayeretJoe t1_ixzqbj8 wrote

Agree! Also in my case, try things even if you know they will not be perfect. Do not be afraid to break things while trying. Sometimes perfection makes you endlessly research and stuff but never get started actually doing the things we set out!

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Sealworth t1_ixzp5hv wrote

It really depends on how you define success. If you take it to mean rich, yes that can be tricky. If you take it to mean respected at their job, generally liked by people, and not drowning in debt it is a lot easier. By the first definition I know maybe one person (or at least on their way to rich). Using the second definition it describes almost everyone I surround myself with.

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GrizDrummer25 t1_ixzisn8 wrote

I think the point was more to carefully choose the people you spend the most time with. It's a real thing that you assimilate into/become influenced by the people you spend the most time with. Surround yourself with positive people and you'll begin to mirror positivity.

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Toast_On_The_RUN t1_iy17pg4 wrote

I wish I could choose anyone to spend my time with. But I can't pick and choose because theres no choices. Either the few friends I have or no one

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GrizDrummer25 t1_iy1m4uh wrote

And if you feel like your friends aren't leading you down a path you like, or you find yourself making choices with them you normally wouldn't otherwise, the optimal answer may very well be 'no one'. It's never an easy conversation to have with yourself, much less to tell the others in question.

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ScaleneWangPole t1_ixzv45k wrote

If I'm trying to surround myself with successful people, and they are trying to surround themselves with successful people also, then we'll never hang out until I'm already successful.

Better advice: set boundaries with the people in your life, both toxic and non-toxic.

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yousing65 t1_iy45thl wrote

I believe everyone has their own set of strengths that you can be inspired by and learn from and they also have their own set of "toxic" traits (this includes people that society labels as "successful").

I would say as long as you surround yourself with people that: (1) make you feel happy, (2) believe in you and motivate you, and (3) are actively working towards their own self-growth, you should be in good company.

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ValyrianJedi t1_iy0c8ry wrote

Surrounding yourself with successful people may not be immediately easy, but is definitely doable and makes a massive difference

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bateees t1_iy1o50w wrote

no kidding especially when you live in the south

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Platti_J t1_iy09l00 wrote

Successful people don't want to hang out with non successful people, they hang out with other successful people.

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SayeretJoe t1_ixzepxw wrote

You can start with one professional that you will pay to give you advice on the subject you want to improve, after that you will probably meet people from the “industry” on your own!

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