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Ronilaw t1_ixt0gv1 wrote

All the time. Occasionally someone says something to me so deep and profound I think it only applies to me. I doubt they feel that way

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dbx999 t1_ixt20mg wrote

I used to do short local triathlon races. They’re not super hard core and they’re a mild distance. The nice thing is how supportive everyone is. The people who cheer for everyone yelling encouragement is a nice atmosphere. Even the competitors say nice things as you go. It’s not all cut throat competition. It’s just a friendly environment and it’s great.

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Kamakaziturtle t1_ixt8o2s wrote

Imposter syndrome sucks. You often only see people at their best, or the mask they wear to make it seem like they have it all together. Meanwhile you are painfully aware of all your faults, how much you’re faking, how difficult it’s is to keep it from falling apart. And you feel like a fake, and worry people might figure it out.

Truth is, a lot of people often feel this way, in fact it may be less common to not suffer from imposter syndrome. So don’t feel like you are alone, or don’t belong, because you do more than you know.

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Longdingleberry t1_ixtq1xp wrote

Well said. Music does that for me when nobody else will.

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maybethingsnotsobad t1_ixtsjxg wrote

I like SheDaisy's "don't worry bout a thing" for the small stuff. I'm paraphrasing wildly between lines here: Life is sticky, life's a mess. Ever lost your luggage, sat yourself down when the seat is all wet or get gum on your shoe? No matter what life brings, don't worry about a thing.

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Zolathegreat t1_ixtz4nq wrote

I too prefer that over someone's advice or wisdom sometimes. Like I know what to do I'm not an idiot...

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Dumguy1214 t1_ixudgx2 wrote

having a God complex does not nesserely make you a narcissist

having a beloved disco tyrant over you was made by gravity and bending in space time

a gravitational engine called destiny, and you dont mess with destiny

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Mirollz t1_ixudlk5 wrote

nope. being told 'it's gonna be okay. you're doing fine' is the worst thing ever. they best thing that can help you is hearing the TRUTH and being able to become better person from all the critique you hear from others who know you.

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Mirollz t1_ixudssx wrote

you wanting someone else to feel like you means how miserable you crave for attention. it's pathetic. get a hold of yourself. be a man

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Speeddymon t1_ixufcvy wrote

Not always. Sometimes hearing the truth can put people over the edge. If they know they're fucking up and you don't tell them gently then they could go and off themselves.

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Mirollz t1_ixugh2l wrote

so? it's better to lie then? if you're weak then feeding you lies will only worsen your condition as the lie can't last forever. no. it's better to face the truth and it's consequences than to live with a lie. no one matter how good that lie is. and if you're to weak to withstand that then, welp, nobody's gonna miss you anyway

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Speeddymon t1_ixugma6 wrote

No I didn't say lie, in fact I specifically said "if you don't tell them gently" meaning don't just tell them the truth but do so in a way that isn't going to make them hurt more...

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This_Bitch_Overhere t1_ixuj3hb wrote

Impostor syndrome is what you’re experiencing and is something that is engrained in you for birth and from your ancestors. Your mind is trying to protect you from doing something new because “it could be dangerous and kill you.” It’s the same thing that kept us fro jumping from tall distances when we didn’t know that it would kill us if we landed wrong or, we landed on a rock. That is actually part of your primitive mind, and it is natural to all of us. Furthermore, you’re more conditioned to listen to your negative feelings than you are to your positive feelings. When impostor syndrome strikes, it is best to just observe the thought and realize it is just that. A thought. It isn’t you. It does not define who YOU are. Accept that it’s there and move on. Imagine yourself being in a crowded bar with lots of people talking while you carry on a conversation with a friend. Those other conversations are there, but you don’t have to hone on them because you are in conversation with your friend, and nothing else matters.

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keishajay t1_ixurcb7 wrote

Love these words! Will be saving as I go through the wild fucking ride! Makes it sound like a roller coaster. Some fun moments, some scary moments, but what a rush afterwards, looking up and saying "Fuck me I did it!"

Peace.

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jectosnows t1_ixuykd4 wrote

Anyone else dying at a very fast rate of speed due to a rare cancer and have a smile on your face pretending you are not really dieing. That's me everyday with a stage 3 cancer at 33. Who's with me?

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joetuffman t1_ixw9fih wrote

weak people need to be encouraged by the strong person's contentment with his own morals and self as a means for them to join in. almost always they are a strong person yet to realize their strength. that's where the strong step in to educate and support.

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Mirollz t1_ixynq7n wrote

"almost always they are a strong person yet to realize their strength" the most idiotic thing I've read today. congratulations.

you seem to be a person raised on Disney movies and other naive cartoons full of compassion. oh boy you're in for a ride called life. lol

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