Submitted by Gainsborough-Smythe t3_yqw4v2 in GetMotivated
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StickyDuck t1_ivr33cx wrote
That gave me a good chuckle
SupernerdSven t1_ivr71jv wrote
I don't know about you, but I'd hug my cactus if it were big enough. It's too small for that so right now I just pet it.
Gainsborough-Smythe OP t1_ivr9q4r wrote
Oh go on then, hug the cactus.
CyberNinja23 t1_ivrfyu6 wrote
Let me just search that in Urban Dictionary real quick.
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ArizonaSpartan t1_ivriizz wrote
Live in AZ, hugging cactus is a statewide hobby. Besides - Bleed more today, bleed less tomorrow.
KhmerAssassin t1_ivrnd52 wrote
If you don't hug it, you're fired.
TheGrumpyre t1_ivrqktn wrote
Janet's a little confused, but she'll get you Eleanor Shelstrop's files soon
SixThousandHulls t1_ivrqr8z wrote
Now son, don't touch that cactus!
[deleted] t1_ivrv15o wrote
So is the idea in this image and most others like it just ignoring entirely how difficult and negative daily life is? “You don’t have to hug it” what if someone is forcing me too over and over again forever? Isn’t it easier just to accept that everything in our daily lives is a miraculous shit show and the only way to get over it is revel in it
luckysilverdragon t1_ivry7gm wrote
negativity can be cathartic sometimes though, and help with the emotional healing process. but being negative about everything all the time definitely won’t help anyone. save your negativity for when there is reason to be/feel negative
thecwestions t1_ivrye0q wrote
Aww. But that's the most huggable cactus! Fuck it. I'm going for it!
FckSuccess t1_ivrz5oj wrote
Sometimes it is hard to just say NO to negativity! One needs other tools!
onlooker61 t1_ivrzh1z wrote
Whatever happened to "embrace your difficulties" Now you say you don't have to...
PawnedPawn t1_ivs2dtr wrote
westwardnomad t1_ivs2t8a wrote
What if you are a cactus and just need a hug? Thanks a lot bud...
RefikCan t1_ivs4rmi wrote
Sometimes cactus wants some love too
Tomthemadone t1_ivs62ku wrote
Hes porcupine man now
garbagedmp t1_ivs8psw wrote
As an American who's grandparents were all Canadian, I feel sad I missed the opportunity to participate in the sacred cactus hugging ceremony of my ancestors.
Right? Yeah, that's right. This is the only answer.
theamazingzuchinni t1_ivsb1ab wrote
Actually constant positivity can be way more toxic. Sometimes you have to be negative, and by "negative" I mean a realist and honest with the situation.
I've been handed a cactus, I know I can't hug it or touch it, it doesn't need water and much care, and it doesn't give me anything, in fact it's pretty useless, and it's not even pretty. But you know what? I can put it on my freaking table, or my window ledge to be reminded that not everything is a pretty orchid, sometimes something is an ugly, prickly cactus, that can actually give me a pretty flower sometimes, more times not, and that's ok.
Because people don't need constant sickening positivity to get motivated, they need reality that reminds them why they're doing what they're doing and when it's ok to stop.
adviceKiwi t1_ivsbfrp wrote
Did You hear about the cactus thief?
He was a prickly one...
RadioactiveTF2 t1_ivscf3n wrote
Thats not positivity. Thats naivety. You’re right though, its important to know the difference.
sktipwr t1_ivsd8co wrote
I'm still waiting here. You said Real Quick
Mrrandom314159 t1_ivsdk6s wrote
Why be sad? Life gave you free ammunition.
MACMAN2003 t1_ivsdye4 wrote
i've got a guy in my head that tells me that if i don't hug the cactus my entire family will die
Gredstinue t1_ivse2sq wrote
SpiceySandworm t1_ivseon9 wrote
Wouldn't hugging the cactus be the opposite of negativity since you are embracing what life has given you?
iRedditApp t1_ivsggpz wrote
What if I WANT to hug it?
walkinginthesky t1_ivsgilj wrote
Wow... lol this is the first time I've ever heard this sentiment this way. Thanks OP! Edit: I can't believe people downvoted this comment. I think people thought I was being sarcastic. I wasn't 🤷 lol
LadyKnight151 t1_ivsk9iq wrote
It's the quenchiest!
Mike_the_TV t1_ivsklqh wrote
Considering the alternate locations that cactus could go, hugging may be the preferred alternative for sure.
felixamente t1_ivsl2pv wrote
This is why platitudes and slogans intended to motivate people rarely ever do so.
felixamente t1_ivsl5u3 wrote
You’re going to do well in life. 😎
felixamente t1_ivslbyw wrote
I think cactuses (cacti?) are pretty. But otherwise yah I agree platitudes and cliches are not helpful and dilute the real motivation.
theamazingzuchinni t1_ivsls89 wrote
Both correct I think, in English and Latin respectively. And yeah they're motherfreaking pretty. And lemons are delicious on their own, too. (You know, make lemonade and shit, actually you already got the cactus bit, I'm guessing you got that, too)
aridamus t1_ivsn1ko wrote
It’s an Arizonan tradition, don’t ya know?! We gotta hug at least 1 a year or else the scorpion king comes to Phoenix and slaughters until he is satisfied.
implicate t1_ivsr3fx wrote
You're still telling me what to do!
louisme97 t1_ivsr5lf wrote
im 100% sure that negativity is fuel for some people.
I mean who defines whats good and bad?
I personally allmost allways stay happy and chill because thats the "soil" i thrive in, but others maybe just dont.
I personally cant stand those people but they gotta live their own life.
SuperRette t1_ivssax1 wrote
There's a reason toxic positivity is so hated.
Metamorphis t1_ivsvl0c wrote
Ye, sometimes these platitudes and slogans are used in ways or situations the person saying it hasn't thought about cus they ain't going through the same thing, or just didn't think it was THAT serious
Some people try to be motivating for the sake of being motivating, feel good about themselves and/or REALLY do try to help out and be supportive etc. which is great, it just sucks for everyone when it doesn't hit home which can happen sometimes =/ (This is also where I think "it's the thought that counts" fits well and make a ton of difference, a friend of mine may not know how to help/talk well but goddamnit if he hasn't taken me to McDonald's and said "Idk how I can better help you but here's a burger" and that made me tear up more than any shrink has been able to make me do tbh)
enduring_student t1_ivsy3fx wrote
This one made me laugh, in a good way. Thank you!
SixThousandHulls t1_ivsy4hv wrote
You're dead to me.
Wooden-Ground-8105 t1_ivt4uc5 wrote
Sorry, I'ma hugger.
ebola_borialis t1_ivtdh2a wrote
Throw it at your boss instead!
PingouinMalin t1_ivthdfy wrote
Ah yeah, the good old "internalize your feelings, be strong, never weak, keep positive".
Then one day after all this positivity, you end in ER after a major mental breakdown.
Litterally fuck that. Bad things happen, people get hurt, they should never be ashamed of showing weakness or despair. It's a normal answer to some punches life delivers.
It's litterally "you're unhappy ? Stop."
zjuka t1_ivthy5j wrote
Everything is a dildo if you’re brave enough
zjuka t1_ivtipxp wrote
I had a friend like that. There isn’t a cactus that he wouldn’t try to hug or fight. Quite unfortunate, really decent person otherwise. But at some point you grow really weary of helping a grown-ass man disentangle himself from yet another cactus, that for some reason he thought would be a different experience from a previous cactus encounter.
FirehouseMouse1401 t1_ivtp09a wrote
If you water it, it might even flower for you.
Faulty_Segment t1_ivtqc57 wrote
The “hugging” action is negativity. The cactus is the situation.
You don’t embrace hardship with negativity. You simply accept it. On the other end, you also don’t want to resist/deny/avoid the fact you were given a cactus.
Then you think “alright I got this cactus which isn’t that great. What can I do at this point to improve and/or continue my journey?”
Goddamnmint t1_ivtvojt wrote
Until you wake up locked in a room with a cactus and hear "Wanna play a little game?"
CraazzyCatCommander t1_ivtwdnd wrote
To all of the people pointing out toxic positivity, I HATE toxic positivity, but not all positivity is toxic.
Like, you do know that in general being positive is a good thing right? It only gets toxic when you refuse to a knowledge reality or feel negative feelings.
gremlinofthekremlin t1_ivtz4s7 wrote
Then 🤔HWY🤔 is it called the Huguaro Cactus, hmmmmmm¿¿¿???
gremlinofthekremlin t1_ivtz893 wrote
TheKinginLemonyellow t1_ivu0a5k wrote
Cacti need love too!
schwertdermacht t1_ivu2d4n wrote
This is so dumb.
AllergicToDaylight t1_ivub8fe wrote
Paige No!
Yasuomidonly t1_ivudqbv wrote
If you want to be positive you can be
EyeShartedDripDrip t1_ivusupr wrote
Thought I was in r/Tucson
ThyShirtIsBlue t1_ivv8oal wrote
This is not advice, it's toxic positivity. Telling a person that they are wrong for having feelings will only serve to make them feel invalidated, isolated, condescended to and further frustrate them while sending them a signal that you are not a person to trust with their feelings.
If someone in your personal life starts venting to you, do them a favor and keep this to yourself, and just listen to them instead.
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ILuvYou_YouAreSoGood t1_ivqhy1t wrote
What if I'm just too positive though? I wake up thinking "I'm gonna stay up super late and I am sure I will feel great and perform well tomorrow! I'm gonna use life destroying drugs with no negative consequences at all! I'm gonna make thoughtless decisions in my personal and private life and rest assured that everything will be wonderful forever!". A bit of negativity might be just what I need to stay on the level, even keeled.