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SpiceySandworm t1_ivseon9 wrote

Reply to comment by Gainsborough-Smythe in [Image] Negativity. Just say no. by Gainsborough-Smythe

Wouldn't hugging the cactus be the opposite of negativity since you are embracing what life has given you?

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felixamente t1_ivsl2pv wrote

This is why platitudes and slogans intended to motivate people rarely ever do so.

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Metamorphis t1_ivsvl0c wrote

Ye, sometimes these platitudes and slogans are used in ways or situations the person saying it hasn't thought about cus they ain't going through the same thing, or just didn't think it was THAT serious

Some people try to be motivating for the sake of being motivating, feel good about themselves and/or REALLY do try to help out and be supportive etc. which is great, it just sucks for everyone when it doesn't hit home which can happen sometimes =/ (This is also where I think "it's the thought that counts" fits well and make a ton of difference, a friend of mine may not know how to help/talk well but goddamnit if he hasn't taken me to McDonald's and said "Idk how I can better help you but here's a burger" and that made me tear up more than any shrink has been able to make me do tbh)

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Faulty_Segment t1_ivtqc57 wrote

The “hugging” action is negativity. The cactus is the situation.

You don’t embrace hardship with negativity. You simply accept it. On the other end, you also don’t want to resist/deny/avoid the fact you were given a cactus.

Then you think “alright I got this cactus which isn’t that great. What can I do at this point to improve and/or continue my journey?”

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