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barrelofsandals t1_ivgg59c wrote

The amount of people intentionally being thick-skulled on this is baffling.

Nobody is saying go laugh at suffering or make fun of others' grief. They are saying you can take control of your suffering and you have the power to interact with these feelings and experiences as you see fit. It's about reframing your perspective.

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Serfo t1_ivhunda wrote

I think most people get the overall message but chose to go the meme route just because.

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reddrighthand t1_ivjl5ua wrote

No, my first thought was this is fuckin' horrible advice.

I'm just supposed to go laugh in the places I used to visit with a person who's no longer here? Without any context other than I miss them like hell, especially there?

No, this has fine intentions it just missed the mark.

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riotousviscera t1_ivhbrch wrote

yes!!!! cannot stand how deliberately dense people are being here.

I had a really bad time in junior high. took a lot of abuse from classmates, and school faculty covered it up (at best - at worst they pretty much condoned it). fast forward about 17 years and the building is abandoned. as it happens I am into urbex, so yeah, I actually planned out a visit and managed to enjoy myself there. it was a significant healing experience and I felt much better afterward.

this is definitely something you want to be careful with, though. i had gone there a year prior on a whim, just to see the building, not to go inside. but I saw an open door, went in and just was NOT prepared to be in there... it was a really bad experience that stuck with me until I went back. YMMV.

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dontsuckmydick t1_ivj8pta wrote

Did you just express how upset you were that people were taking this literally and then share your story on how you took this literally?

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riotousviscera t1_ivvkqy4 wrote

... no? I expressed annoyance at people choosing to be dense regarding the meaning of the saying, and then shared a story about how i did something like that and it helped me.

you are not actually this dumb.

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