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CatWhenSlippery t1_ivfmgcq wrote

I have this problem. So, how do I fix it?

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gameartist3d t1_ivft4rj wrote

Quit trying to people please and express yourself even if you're receiving negativity

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Littleman88 t1_ivjnb03 wrote

A fine sentiment, but people hating you doesn't feed the ego unless you're a narcissist and spin the beratement as proof they're insecure and can't match up to your awesomeness.

I'm all for motivating people, but naive, empty headed platonic motivations can do more harm lasting than good.

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gameartist3d t1_ivrsk27 wrote

It's not about using negativity, it's expressing yourself regardless if you receive negativity. Big difference. You have to be true to yourself in every situation or you'll slowly lose the trust of people around you and most importantly yourself.

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Littleman88 t1_ivjnz0o wrote

Fake it 'til you make it? Or in other words, become the self you want to be.

Honestly, you'll love your happiest and/or most successful self most. A lot of people will interpret the post to mean "stop giving a shit what others think!" which, heh, we're herd animals and we live in a society. Denying a fundamental human experience isn't going to work. It just breaks us.

Unless you already have people you deeply respect that you know appreciate you and you feel your emotional needs met, not giving a shit about how other people think about you is a fine way to not give a shit about other people period, though it does ironically help with tolerating rejection when you get into social things like the dating game.

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