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thecaninfrance t1_ivevpiw wrote

How am I not myself?

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rish_talking t1_iveyxl8 wrote

Well, think of it like. Let's say you want to drive a car, who are you? A driver.... And just like that You are a son, a daughter, a friend, a lover, a cook, someone hungry, ... Sometimes prey but mostly a predator......A REDDITOR... An employee, a business owner, a police man. Etc etc

In Gist.... We wear identities to function in this world like clothes jumping from one identity to another.

What happens when you are not wearing any! Completely naked. Who are you? No one!

Every identity makes its own noise in the head. You would never heard the silence.

Every identity has its own weight on our breathe. You would have never taken a more free breathe.

Just relax every muscle you can. Let the identities dissolve and underneath it's you.

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tychus-findlay t1_ivhlgfv wrote

I took a different meaning on this. If anyone battles with depression, anxiety, things like that, it's like a black cloud over your true self. In those times, you just want to feel normal, but you don't, and you hate it. You don't hate yourself, you just hate that you don't feel like what you consider the best version of yourself.

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rish_talking t1_ivindsw wrote

Okay! I want to add more it but i do not want to sound arrogant.

Anxiety and depression look like they have their own identity that is persistent. I looked it like that for years myself.

Eventually, i started to see them differently.

Adding on what I said before. We wear identities like clothes based on what is needed in the moment. What if I am not able to? 1) Either I do not have the energy to create an identity (that looks like depression) 2) I do not know what identity to create (instant panic, that looks like anxiety)

Different reasons, but result is the same. Unable to function to our potential.

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universalrifle t1_ivfn3mw wrote

I will always want to be the driver and make sure everyone is having the ride of their life!

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rish_talking t1_ivfnshf wrote

Even when you are not driving?

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universalrifle t1_ivfnx82 wrote

Yes. I could drive in my sleep

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rish_talking t1_ivfo80j wrote

Are you driving right now?

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universalrifle t1_ivfo9ny wrote

Most definitely

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Cylon_Skin_Job_2_10 t1_ivfujpw wrote

The part of us that we fear having uncovered and exposed to others, so we shame and deny it out of existence? The part that truly wants this, but not that, but had been told what it “should” want instead and so we try to uphold that standard. For some people, that part of themselves is so deeply pushed down and ignored that they forgot it exists, and then they wonder why it is so hard to engage with life, and hate themselves for not being able to do what they “should be” doing, and it’s like, this is someone else’s life you are trying to live, that’s why.

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Alone_Asparagus7651 t1_ivh2bdf wrote

You ARE yourself. People try to pass the blame to other things, but essentially you are your habits. You prove who you are by what you do. If a person says they love you, but beat you up every time they see you do you really think they love you? No of course not, we all know this. The same applies to ourselves. We prove who we are by our actions.

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parakeet2002 t1_ivftjbx wrote

You know who you are because you know who you aren't. By subtracting who aren't from you are, you can know youself

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