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rmc2318 t1_itq4gpb wrote

Reply to comment by ValyrianJedi in [Image] Before you start your week... A message that I come back to every single day. by eagleclaw901

Then you obviously haven’t stressed your mind to breaking point. For nothing in the working world is worth your Mental Health. A lesson you may learn one day.

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kitalorian t1_itqa421 wrote

As someone who is permanently disabled, this is a WILD comment.

I have to work, or I die. Like most people. But I become psychotic with stress, which I push past (with doctor's help) because I HAVE to. Or else, once again, I DIE.

"Nothing in the working world is worth your mental health?" What about existing?

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spacew0man t1_itr2duv wrote

Agreed. I have disabilities and mental health disorders and I’ve been in a state of chronic stress for many years because of it. If I followed the advice of this post, I would literally be unable to exist at all. Like, take care of your mental health, and make changes if you personally feel they will help your situation. But just quitting everything that costs your mental health? Existing costs me my mental health, lmao. I still gotta get up and do it just like countless others who have to do the same to survive.

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literally_pee t1_itryiqf wrote

exactly it comes across as tone deaf imo

"let them eat cake"

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literally_pee t1_its07ih wrote

any tips or tricks for someone feeling similar?

I get stressed out thinking about even calling my doctor.

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kitalorian t1_its2jt8 wrote

I think of it like this:

If you weigh the outcomes between contacting a doctor again or not, which choice produces less stress in the long-term (because today is just right now)?

The temporary, but immediate and insistent stress of a phone call? And then hopefully help, maybe some meds, more support?

Or....

Your mental health declining until doing all of the above things is harder and there's more stress because you haven't been able to keep up with life around you?

Absolutely no hate, I've been there, but what makes me do the healthy thing for myself nowadays, after failing so many times, is knowing through failure which outcome leads where, and parenting my slightly-broken mind to do the thing that will hurt me less overall. Because how can I complain when I'm not helping myself, ya know?

I hope you feel better <3

Quick edit: also, stress and anxiety around doctors is normal. Don't be hard on yourself about feeling those things, just don't let them hold you back from getting healthier and feeling better things

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literally_pee t1_its33il wrote

ur gona make me cry, this was so helpful thanks 🥺I really appreciate it

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FreeFoot_ t1_itq6iit wrote

Right, but stressing your mind to a certain point is healthy. That’s how you develop.

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ValyrianJedi t1_itq7ry6 wrote

I used to work 90-100+ hour weeks, currently work ~70 hour weeks, have to spend 100+ nights a year in hotels for work, have a super high pressure job where a quarterly quota is hanging over your head and the bottom 10-15% of performers who do make quota still end up being cut each year end, my pay is 70% commission and bonus so I never know how much I'm making next month until I make it despite having a truckload of costs, and now we have triplets on the way... Pretty sure I'm extremely familiar with extreme stress. If that stress is a trade for my family's financial security, my family's stability, my kids' educations, my kids' opportunities, etc. then I am more than happy to go through a boatload of stress for that.

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literally_pee t1_itrywb6 wrote

then you should be grateful you had parents that encouraged you to persevere.

not everyone was so lucky.

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ValyrianJedi t1_its06rp wrote

My dad drank himself to death when I was 13 and my mom used to sell food stamps for painkillers and booze money, and left me couch surfing for a month when I was 10 when she ran off with some dude after Woodstock 99. Don't think I was all that lucky on the parent front ha.

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literally_pee t1_its2u7z wrote

I apologize, I'm not assuming to know anything about your path in life.

perhaps I meant, you should be grateful instead that your brain perseveres. And can handle that sort of load.

that's the most important skill to have. It allows the wonderful growth of every other trait.

my brain lacks that capacity, so I'm on the road to recovery.

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