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--leave_me_alone-- t1_it72g8j wrote

Reply to comment by Haploid-life in [Image] "Toxic Positivity is Forced..." - Susan David by true90sstory

Naw. Stop wallowing. People get mad when some people say the solution to depression and the like is to "just get over it". That's why it sucks. As someone that was wildly depressed, you have to find the key which is often just a shift in perspective.

I still get depressed, and I use self affirmation to ride it out

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Rebresker t1_it73r69 wrote

I was part of a 20 year study for kids with a parent who was diagnosed with depression and showed signs of having depression that was geared towards preventing depression. We talked a lot with each other, had classes about recognizing the early stages of depression and described those stages as a downward spiral. Discussed ways to recognize and prevent yourself from going down further.

They paid us to do it and bought us lunch. It was like initially once a week, then once a month, then when we got older it was just phone interviews.

I think it helped get me through some shitty times but I think something like that requires a “renewal” once in a while because I honestly at this point can’t remember much about the content of those classes to put in practice.

Also, legitimately talking sincerely with other people is pretty nice in itself.

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Haploid-life t1_it7fgpa wrote

Ah yes, tell the lady that is grieving the loss of her husband or child to stop wallowing. FFS.

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--leave_me_alone-- t1_it7w3bn wrote

That's not the context of this post, and as a generality I stand by what I said.

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--leave_me_alone-- t1_it7zl9w wrote

Hold up, are you literally just making a straw man post here? You literally are posting about your son and husband...

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kingman123 t1_it7e1ek wrote

Exactly. Focusing on the solutions, doesn’t mean neglecting the problem or the negative feelings. It just means you drop the constant rumination. It could even be useful to schedule like 20-30 minutes of your day to just feel like shit, but after that it just blocks you from moving forward

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