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how to build discipline?

Improve your decision making. You have to decide to do the things.

I got halfway through this guys book before I realized it was basically a bunch of discipline quotes on each page. Kinda cool at first but then got repetitive.

So you lack the discipline to get through it?

Lol exactly!

Something that is often overlooked with self discipline is self compassion, because if you don't have self compassion self discipline will feel very unpleasant and hard to stick at it. Self compassion makes self discipline so much easier.

Good

"Jacko"

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Routine. Everything is tough when you start, but it gets easier every day you do it.

Doesn't mean you can't have motivation, as in reasons you do it, but don't expect to have motivation to do it right then, because you probably won't.

You have to have the discipline to force yourself to do something that you don't feel like doing, until you do, and then you'll be glad you did.

...yet posted in r/GetMotivated lol

Start small. Really really small. No, smaller than that.

Start with making a change thats so minuscule that not managing to complete it becomes harder than completing the change itself.

The easier you make it to start and maintain a habit, the easier it will be to get used to the change over time.

Repetition is how we learn.

100% agreed. Kind of a corny book.

Was gonna say, isn’t his name Jocko?

Edit: yep, just looked it up and confirmed it’s Jocko Willink, not Jacko.

Fuck me thats B. J. Blazkowicz

You described every self-help book there is

Bahaha Jocko. 🤣

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How do I decide to do that?

Haha. It starts with one choice, build on that a habit.

Some habits are easier than others. If you wanted to wake up earlier every day, you could start to do things like setting multiple alarms, or putting the alarms on the other side of the room so you have to get up and move them.

If you keep forgetting which task you're on, you have to ask yourself repeatedly which task did I start and which one am I supposed to finish first.

The more you do these things the more they become those passive habits to help push back against the impulsive and intrusiveness of ADHD

This is a great perspective! Why be disciplined when you don't think you are worth it? Damn thanks for the early morning paradigm shift

I don’t know what it is but I just do not trust this guy. Seems like the worst kind of platitude-spewing self help guru bullshit as all the others, always harping on about discipline and nothing else.

Well said.

When his special ops team was all like "I don't WANNA bomb Fallujah today Jocko!" he hit them with a kamayamaya wave of america discipline and then the battle was won.

Who da fook is dat guy?

Another ex-SEAL with a book deal.

If you do Spotify, his "Discipline Equals Freedom Field Manual" is on there for free (or as free as Spotify is anyway): https://open.spotify.com/album/3VHxlMnG9PDcXyzWrITCf6?si=M-_UmF-5ReG-2T_nFG5laQ

I'm not going to claim he has any magic insights, but sometimes his stuff hits just right to give you a good kick in the pants.

His picture is hilarious.

It looks like the photographer said "now give me a badass pouty face"

I loved Jocko for like two months, and then it was like; yes I know life is hard and only discipline will get you through each day. What about my emotions and insecurities, discipline and hard work. Grandma died? Discipline and hard work…it’s a repetitive message and is not always the best advice.

Self-help in a nutshell: If you need this book, you're fucked.

"It's all hard work and dicipline" says those with great luck. 🙄😮‍💨

Never heard of this guy, the comments are pretty funny!

But I agree with the dude. Discipline can be hard if you're not crazy about the tasks ahead.

A big key to being disciplined is to remind yourself that much of the work that requires discipline is work that will pay off, make you level-up, get you closer to your goals or dreams.

A big thing I've learned is to "be nice to your future self". Don't wanna iron a shirt vs. watching netflix, then you get up the next morning for a meeting or whatever and you now have to iron the damn shirt, and ten other things? And you're picturing yourself last night and thinking "you lazy bastard!!!" Do things now that will make your future self like your now-self, do things that are hard but you'll look back and be glad/proud you did them. It's a big part of growing a positive self-image and a belief you can achieve things. Identify behaviors that reinforce a bad self-image or even cause self-loathing, and try to chip away at them.

Yea the comments are hilarious lol. I seen someone say somethin about “luck” and wit that mindset I’m sure he/she aren’t where they wanna be in life.

I def agree wit ur statement tho 💪

Not only that, but the way you speak to yourself in the process or "self disciplining." I had a realisation around my own way of treating myself when I thought,

"if I saw someone walking down the street and they had someone walking alongside them speaking to that person the way I speak to myself, what would I think of the person saying those things?"

It suddenly dawned on me how awful I can treat myself and I've been working on it ever since, over 3 years now, and it's made such a difference but I still do it but not as much and stop myself if I am feeling bad about anything unnecessarily, and through working on self compassion, self discipline became something I could stick with because it didn't feel so abusive to myself.

I had a very similar experience. Was very carefree and a tad lazy in my teens and early 20s, so mid 20s I started to force myself to be more organized and disciplined which was what I needed honestly but looking back at the self dialogue it was very harsh. Then I got used to that harsh inner voice being the norm and my work ethic and accomplishments just never seemed good enough. I kept the nose to the grindstone but at great personal cost to my happiness and relationships. Now the idea of being disciplined seems kinda icky and I guarantee it is my inner self saying "enough" to the brutal task master. There is a healthy balance in there somewhere and your comment about the self compassion aspect of discipline has totally changed my perspective on it so thank you!

I had a similar realisation where it wasn't the work that was making my body and brain say, "enough" but the abuse I would give myself even just by the feelings of anxiety and stress to "must get it done or else." Was what I couldnt tolerate.

These things can become a habit and we often don't realise I think that it is just a habitual way of thinking and not reality a lot of the time. The same can happen with people who wish to lose weight and they can be skinny but they still have the "habit" of seeing themselves as fat (not the same as anorexia but part of that is habituated behaviours for sure).

A great way to find these troublesome thoughts is by looking for when you are saying to yourself, "should" or "should not" and I have found that questioning these shoulds and should nots has lead me to explore whether they are actually benefiting me or just left over unhelpful ways of being left over from childhood.

Grifter

He has a kids book that's straight propaganda.

Hey, I've had some "luck" - not like a trust find (when my mother passed I inherited like $1800, woo hoo!!!!). But my shitshow childhood did instill in me some kind of love of creating things; and I worked like a freakin' dog to find a way to make a living with it. Hell, if you have four limbs and two eyes and are ambulatory, a blind guy in a wheelchair is gonna think you're one lucky bastard, right?

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Yes, true that