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DaveInDigital t1_isncya7 wrote

Reply to comment by KiniShakenBake in [Image] "Self-discipline" by Butterflies_Books

that's what i was thinking. my whole life i've been called lazy and i never really understood why i simply couldn't until i got a diagnosis and read about the spectrum of ADHD symptoms. "just make yourself do things" is the most unhelpful advice and is usually given by people trying to feel good about themselves like they're fuckin Tony Robbins rather than actually be helpful/encouraging.

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KiniShakenBake t1_isp5vxm wrote

Right?! That last one about doing all the little things was a goddamn gut punch, and not in a good way.

That is literally one of the key symptoms of ADHD and depressions. Molehills to the neurotypicals may as well be the road to sauron.

Oh... And for women, ADHD looks totally different so we are being diagnosed so much later in life... It is a near epidemic for us at this point between 37 and 45 or so.

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DaveInDigital t1_it3hebw wrote

yeah i was just recently diagnosed at 37. learning so much about it, a lot of stuff makes a lot more sense now 😅 my symptoms weren't terribly obvious either, or in the classic sense of what most people (myself included) traditionally think of as ADHD. i just suddenly had a lot of friends getting diagnosed, explaining their symptoms to me, and thinking "wait that's not normal??" 😅 turns out i had kept the company of people that are a lot like me, which now i realize is probably super common.

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KiniShakenBake t1_it3i7ah wrote

Hahaha. Saaaaaame. My meds are helping so, so much. Digging out of the piles of crap that have accumulated in my life is actually happening.

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DaveInDigital t1_it3m94x wrote

congrats! that's encouraging for me to hear. i literally started taking my meds (finally, in my town it was hard to find a pharmacy willing to fill a schedule 2) yesterday.

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KiniShakenBake t1_it3q03f wrote

Oh! I didn't go on anything that is scheduled. I started straterra five weeks ago and hoped it would help before I went down that road.

It is helping and I am so, so glad.

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