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PM-your-noodz t1_ir6756q wrote

As an older dude who thought the same thing many moons ago, Billy Joel is correct.

Relax, enjoy every stage of life. Your twenties is about enjoying the moment, gaining experience and setting up your future.

No need to win the race at this stage, just make sure you do t lose it this early.

So slow down, enjoy the moment, relish each experience and set yourself on the path to where you want. (It's the trip which is important, not the destination as some would say).

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Wooden_Health_7129 t1_ir68se6 wrote

What are your thirties about?

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REALLYagressiveMold t1_ir6cegj wrote

Gaining wisdom and life experience, that you then use to tweak your course appropriately in your career and otherwise. I'm in that change course phase, I know I need it, just having trouble figuring out the mechanics

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PM-your-noodz t1_ir6bm48 wrote

For me they were making a success of my career. Still not where I wanted to be, but getting that experience was crucial.

And having a child and watching him grow up was THE ultimate rush in my thirties. It showed me that it's not all about me.

You'll experience in some form or another tough times. Good times. Memorable times and tiles you'd like to forget.

Again it's about living the moment. And focusing on being happy where you are. I didn't do that for far too long, and probably missed out on a lot of good times because of it.

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ah-tow-wah t1_ir8fdrv wrote

And here I thought you were going say your 30s were all about noodz.

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bloodyyuno t1_ir7ss1e wrote

Your thirties are about finding comfort in stability and beginning to truly discover what your specific body needs to be at its best. You slow down, take more time to relax and enjoy the world around you.

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sunshinecygnet t1_ir7v9fa wrote

Finally starting to accumulate the basics in life that eluded you in your 20s. I spent my early thirties paying off my debts and then finally having a savings account. This summer I bought a really nice mobile home (not like anyone can afford a house right now…)

Also, patience. I stopped wanting to achieve instantaneously and started doing the small steps so I could achieve things eventually. I’ve achieved a lot more by doing this.

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booglemouse t1_ir885q9 wrote

Absolutely this, and for me, finally beginning to live the life I couldn't in my twenties. I was so busy alternating between scrambling and zoning out, I hardly ever did anything for myself that was really memorable. I was stuck in a loop, work and exhaustion, rarely making time for anything else. Now I have a supportive partner, a greater priority on deliberately making memories, and just enough extra money to not feel guilty trying a new restaurant every week or two.

I have gotten so much more out of the last two years than I did in the five years before that, because I'm deliberately choosing to do things like go for a lil Saturday morning walk instead of scrolling endlessly in a duvet. In my twenties I didn't even realize how much time I was letting slip away.

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TreatThompson OP t1_ir67o91 wrote

Wow that’s a great insight “just make sure you don’t lose it this early”

Guess it’s important to have direction, but you don’t have to get there as soon as possible

Do you think that frantic feeling something that every generation feels early on? Or do you think it’s particularly unique to today?

My gut tells me there are no new issues, and each generation goes through the same things

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PM-your-noodz t1_ir68zfp wrote

I think that every generation has felt this. The big difference for me is that in the past we compared ourselves to our friends. Our communities. A few exceptional people made the news, but essentially that was it.

Nowadays you can compare yourself to hundreds of people you've never met. And this goes for all generations today. LinkedIn compares our careers. Tinder our potential partners. Facebook anyone and everyone. And you only see the sides that people want you to see. So it's easy to believe that everyone is ahead of you.

I had a teacher that reminded me often that even presidents have to poop. So focus on yourself and let the rest go.

If you can do that, it's half the job done.

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TreatThompson OP t1_ir6a0d5 wrote

Yeah that’s a great point

Now there’s an infinite source of comparison in the world. More than just “did you hear what x is doing”

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HollyDams t1_ir68ogh wrote

Great insight indeed. But I feel the issue we all have nowadays is choosing a direction.
I mean, everything is changing so quickly that, the direction you take can make you bankrupt and become completely irrelevant by the time you master the things involved in that direction.
I can’t say every generations have lived the same things because we’re the firsts generations to live through that incredibly fast evolution.
Our reptilian brain isn’t made for internet and the flow of information it comes with. And the societal and technological changes it brings with it.

And here I stand, lost in the middle of thousands of directions. I can’t choose one and stick to it since I can’t tell what will still be relevant in 1, 2, 5, 10 years. I’m talking about skills that allows to earn a living but I think this point of view is for every choices we have to make. Everything is going too fast and nobody can keep up the pace anymore.
At least, this is what I feel.

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TreatThompson OP t1_ir69c6v wrote

That’s true there’s a lot of new interesting avenues that still haven’t been solidified as “safe” career paths or “safe” to invest a bunch of time into

I don’t even have an idea of an answer to offer—but I definitely feel that

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UncomfortablyLucid96 t1_ir82br2 wrote

Freedom is both a blessing and curse, because you have the freedom to do anything, but what do you do?

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TheKardia24 t1_ir7zfkx wrote

Yet I'm doing nothing in my twenties to set up my thirties. Which means my thirties will be just as miserable.

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