Another example would be me I guess, have 2 cousins who are rich now (one is younger than me) and a classmate back in college who is also rich now. I was like "Nice, good for you". It never crossed my mind that "why I am in this state or I should be like them by this time as well etc." Even with my parents/relatives keep comparing me to them.

My problem has always been a clear goal, getting motivated is not a problem for me which I recently discovered. Example, study some stuff for work to make it simple, fast and efficient (which I don't need to but somehow motivated to do so out of my own will or I'm just lazy to do the long method that my co-workers do). I'm still trying to figure out whatever that goal is.