This is such a toxic way to think and live life. To be happier, it's important to let go of this thought process. You can appreciate other people's intelligence and lives, and even get inspired by them, but don't compare your life to theirs. Everyone's life path is unique, and someone else may think that your life is better than theirs. Focus on your own life and becoming a better person, without having others in mind.

Yeah this is my mindset right now, as toxic as it is.. it’s a lot easier said than done trying to improve the way you view yourself compared to others, but change doesn’t happen overnight. Just take baby steps, one step at a time at seeking your own positivity over negativity.

I feel like this every now and then too.. especially when starting something new. If you’re trying to start a woodworking YouTube channel, you’d imagine that someone will tell you that you don’t have experience what makes you think you could do it etc. and it’s common that this comes from family, friends or even sometimes finding ourselves saying this to people.

But as they say, if you just do it and stick to it, then the feeling fades, as you have “stood the test of time”. After a certain period of time you attain new skill more confidence so this can only come with time. It’s not so easy to change your way of thinking so sometimes the best action is just to weather the storm. After the rain comes the sun, you just gotta trust the process.

It all sounds cheesy I know.

I’m in a new job now, and I feel exactly like you. From a fully functioning person (even equipped with a few good tricks in my pocket or two) in my last job, I’m now back to a baby who’s learning his first new words. But that comes with the “New” and “change” territory. I get anxious and worried everyday, but I’ll stick to it, look forward to the weekends, and always find myself a good sounding board to share my experience or frustrations (I’m glad my family has been of great support and happiness)

But good luck and all the best to the both of us! You are not alone!

"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Teddy Roosevelt (I think)

Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to see yourself in others. You are your anecdotal understanding that those feelings are not unique, they are simply present. Be secure in knowing everyone is insecure.

We all have our own talents in life. Sometimes others find what theirs is sooner than other, but I can totally relate to this. I struggle nonstop with how my body looks. For the longest time I weighed a certain weight, went to college, never gained the ‘freshman 15,’ but then when I became pregnant of course I gained weight. Now I struggle with how much my body has changed and constantly compare myself to others who have had multiple kids and I feel are in better shape then I am. It hard, all the time. There is so much in society that is telling us we should be doing this or that by this age, or having this many kids, be married by that age, look this way…..How can you not help compare yourself and question when your life doesn’t go according to what you see all the time? It’s a horrible way to think and live and an every day battle, but you are YOU! Your own individual person. Shine that light that you’re given and take your own time to do big things in life!