Submitted by DelusionalWeed t3_11z8htu in GetMotivated
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Winterlord7 t1_jdbsojj wrote
Cute but I think “hope” would fit better for green.
OldRun5519 t1_jdbtvzy wrote
Damn True!
iamCaptainDeadpool t1_jdc3jqu wrote
Emotional me.
nick313 t1_jdca12i wrote
True that. Emotional intelligence is probably the hardest to achieve
DonaldA35 t1_jdchqjd wrote
Observe them without reacting to them. The negative emotions cloud the mind but can move through quickly when there in no resistance. Clarity comes after. Said not because I read that but because I can do that. Highly recommended.
BrockChocolate t1_jdcido1 wrote
"I think I'm feeling enthusiastic again!"
Next Day
"No it was just indigestion"
justingod99 t1_jdclxs3 wrote
Not advised for those suffering from clinical depression. Repress them and….
mmerijn t1_jdcm871 wrote
Dwelling on feelings is often to avoid them. Feeling means being in the moment.
override367 t1_jdcwap9 wrote
I thought safe said cafe and I was like "yeah I could use a trip to a cafe"
GranumX t1_jdcz6ap wrote
Cool little art thingy but bad context imo. The statement doesn’t make sense to me. It’s like “the more you shower, the more you realise the water is wet, here is some yarn” xD
LEJ5512 t1_jdd5o7u wrote
Rather than merely dwelling, this advice is about unraveling, recognizing, and understanding the feelings.
Like being upset by rush hour traffic — is it just the traffic, or does the upset feeling come from another root? Is it making you late for your appointment, or does the guy blasting past in the slow lane make you worried about what could happen to the safe drivers?
A lot of stress comes from not understanding. If you can ease your reactions to your feelings, you can begin to observe them, and then eventually understand them better.
littlebobeepbeep t1_jdd9efj wrote
How does one do this without shutting down? I’ve repressed my feelings for so long that it’s overwhelming when Im feeling all these things and trying to make sense of it. I think I’m depressed bc of it and it’s just been hard… shoutout to all the kids that were told they were sensitive/emotional growing up, let’s get better for the kid we once were who didn’t get the support they needed, we fucking got this
stevengreen11 t1_jddaard wrote
Identify your feelings, and identify what's making you feel them.
Then you can begin to control them.
Shrek_n_donkeh t1_jddxj5h wrote
Omg this!
Adam_is_Nutz t1_jddzsu2 wrote
No, I said 'M' as in Mansi
Shawnigmatic t1_jde079t wrote
I think this is a great way to represent the growth to be found by allowing yourself to actively process your emotions instead of letting them run rampant in the background.
Quakarot t1_jde4vig wrote
Well at least I should have enough yarn to make a purple and blue sweater. It’ll look nice!
Oh hey a little string of yellow
abaram t1_jde6h28 wrote
I’d agree with that
Seek medical help because most traumas are not your fault and you are absolutely right to feel absolutely overwhelmed. You will chase away the good people around you if you don’t help yourself
xxukcxx t1_jdea9x8 wrote
I’d say feeling them is not enough. One has to contextualize and assign meaning to them in order to gain control and a fruitful relationship to them.
LEJ5512 t1_jdeb82d wrote
That's exactly what the illustration suggests.
LEJ5512 t1_jdebefm wrote
Right — and then that little bit of yellow is a highlight, and it'll stand out easier for you to remember.
LEJ5512 t1_jdec026 wrote
Yup. A friend of mine is having a pretty bad personal crisis right now, and he's just begun to realize how he's numbed his emotions for so many years (like, maybe 20-30 years). It's going to be an interesting couple years of therapy for him.
Sebulano t1_jdeke0r wrote
Looks like Woman brain on the left and man brain on the right
UglyPuta- t1_jdeku1n wrote
Fricho t1_jdelw2w wrote
Today about... 5 hours ago maybe I was on the verge of crying on the bus.
I just sat there analyzing myself, thinking about what happened today and I managed to find two things that triggered a wave like feeling to my eyes when thinking about them.
Just allow yourself to feel. Think ablut what you're feeling and what made you feel that way. Then you can make a plan to combat those emotions.
You'll make it. I believe in you!
BetterReThanProlapse t1_jdemzvn wrote
Ah yes, my favorite feeling "safe"
TomahawkChopped t1_jdenpaz wrote
This is basically The Color Monster
https://www.amazon.com/Color-Monster-Story-About-Emotions/dp/0316450057
xxukcxx t1_jdep0pq wrote
Perhaps it does, but the written instructions, to me, are saying the key is simply to feel the feelings more. Personally, I don’t think that’s enough. More detailed instructions including intentional thoughtfulness would be my preference. This image seems to suggest that’s an automatic result of feeling more, and I disagree.
se_nicknehm t1_jdepsed wrote
you're actually talking about rationalizing those feelings (i.e. finding their source; differentiate between different feelings/stress, tring to accept them and deal with them if necessary etc.), which is most likely what CAJ meant
just feeling those feelings won't do this for you
stop_lying_good_god t1_jdeql24 wrote
So, the more you feel your feelings ... what happens?
notatechnicianyo t1_jdevt3g wrote
Don’t repress them, just put them in a nice video game
laserdruckervk t1_jdezo05 wrote
Practically what a therapist does
UglyPuta- t1_jdezzg0 wrote
I’m glad you asked because I’d like to raise awareness. First I want to point out that I do not feel emotions like most people. What I feel is often amped to a thousand. That’s because I have a severe form of BPD caused from childhood trauma. (I am in therapy and taking both antidepressants and antipsychotics to keep me sane.)
Let’s start with sadness. Sadness downright makes me cry, it’s deep hurt that leaves me wailing with hot thick tears rolling down my face almost every time. Why am I crying? Well this morning it was because I was abruptly woken up at 5am and couldn’t go back to sleep. It felt like the world was ending. I am aware now that it wasn’t that bad, but in the moment that doesn’t compute with me. I feel genuine pain in my soul and I can’t help but express it.
Anger is uncontrollable. 0-100. Once, back when I wasn’t going to therapy I destroyed my entire room searching for my wallet. What you’d find annoying, I’ll find infuriating. I turned tables, flung my chair, broke things. Seething red hot, hyperventilating, I was a danger to myself and others, which shames me to admit.
Happiness is pure bliss. It’s euphoric, I’m all smiles and giggles, to the point where I’ve thrown up because of it. Just yesterday I laughed so hard I almost went faint. What was I laughing at? Tiktok had 3 funny videos in a row, each one amplifying the mood.
My personal favorite is numbness. I have all the answers, the best advice, my mind is clear and I can enjoy my surroundings. Intrusive thoughts, anxiety or paranoia, I can handle these negative feelings without having to feel all the ups and downs. I can be myself without inner turmoil.
Boredom makes me suicidal, not even kidding. Plus right now I’m rather focused typing this out so my face is flushed and I feel irritation and loss of patience every time I take a moment to think of what other example to write next. Which feels like such in-your-face proof to myself that this mental illness is fvcking exhausting. You don’t realize how many emotions you go through in a day until you’re forced to feel every aspect.
stop_lying_good_god t1_jdf1ntb wrote
So, essentially, everything is hyper-intensified?
UglyPuta- t1_jdf2v76 wrote
Unfortunately. I’m forced to be self aware just so I can appear “normal” in social settings.
stop_lying_good_god t1_jdf39lp wrote
Have you tried NAC?
stop_lying_good_god t1_jdf481r wrote
> forced to be self aware
Damn.
I've had AvPD traits due to childhood emotional neglect and abuse -- and, self-awareness is partly what is helping me out of this.
I can't imagine having to ignore your emotions to this degree though.
Good Luck.
Run_For_Your_Life t1_jdf9c4r wrote
This is called social-emotional learning (SEL). Kids need to know how to regulate the feelings they will inherintly have. Since 2021, at least 25 states have tried to remove the concept from school curriculums altogether. Politicians fight against SEL when they use the word "woke."
DeezJoMamaYolkes t1_jdfe5mn wrote
Man, I guess it’s up to us to understand our feelings so we can best explain them to others. Because we can’t expect others to want to understand us well enough that they learn to decipher our feelings.
LittleKitty235 t1_jdfj29k wrote
What color is hungry?
BeginsAgains t1_jdfkprw wrote
I love this!
BeginsAgains t1_jdfli7a wrote
Finding someone you can untangle the strings with. A professional can provide you with the tools to do so especially if you have repressed so much. Just remember it took a long time to live those things and put them away, working through them takes time top.
A therapist should be a good fit for you. If you don't jive or respect that person or won't serve you. Find someone who does.
Dualincomelargedog t1_jdflijs wrote
ripping off diane alber
RanCestor t1_jdgvijb wrote
Comfortably numb.
CAJ_2277 t1_jdbp5uy wrote
That is not necessarily good advice. Certainly not for many people. Those who tend to dwell on their feelings should not follow that advice.
Instead, at least for such people, trying to go about life and do anything but ruminate on one’s feelings means happier days, while the subconscious mind sorts your feelings out.