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Clever_Mercury t1_jbvvfas wrote

#1 is difficult.

I had to crawl out of hell to get an education and a job. Still feel like an outsider most days and don't have any of those 'deep' friendships or mentorships that clearly help others prosper. How do we make those? Where do we build that?

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h2ogal t1_jc1brt4 wrote

I usually find mentors at work. When you consistently deliver value, above expectations, people tend to want to foster this, to help you progress and get recognition and promotion.

If you stay at a company for a while (or in an industry), and you are good at what you do, while also being considerate and easy to work with, people will start to seek you out for projects.

You also have to think about what your mentor gets out of the relationship. I make sure to speak well of my mentors publicly and to make their life easier whenever possible.

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