Always default to being kind to yourself. Even if you have things in your life you need to change, you can still speak to yourself with love and kindness.

Think of how you might try to explain to a kind but troubled best friend. Most wouldn't berate or demean, they would be kindly but truthful in their own way.

The best part about being nice to yourself is that over time you'll be nicer to everyone as a side effect.

I hope whoever reads this has a lovely day :)